WOMAN'S WORLD.

Taranaki Daily News, Volume LII, Issue 267, 18 December 1909, Page 4

WOMAN'S WORLD.

MAKING HUBBY THINK HE'S LOUD AND MASTEJi. Men arc sometimes queer, and the married kind as a little queerer, perhaps, ; than the other kind (says a writer in a Home paper). I Now, when I married John—and I was 1 just ciazy about John, and lie was mad | about me—what he especially admired i about me—so lie said several thousand times—was my vivacity (I was so cutertaming, you know) and my very natural-looking hair! Natural. ir : nd I you, was the word he used; but, ut | course, I made him explain, and lie said | when lie used the word natural he meant uncurled and put up simplv—like hair his mother used to wear!

j This was' very satisfactory, but still almost everything said when you are first engaged is satisfactory, anil I was pleased. He also used to sav that, lie liked a woman to be intensely' femininelike little ribbon bows, fal do nils, ami frivols, and thought a woman should be as unlike a.-sian in her attire as possible. . Everything about the woman he loves is just the sort of thing he most likes—when they are engaged. He thinks the little tendrils of hair winch blow about her ears and curl so naturally are u'u sweet for anything—until after they have been married a year or two. Then he is quite likely to say, "My dear, don't you tliin'k you ought to make your iiead t'dy? Your locks are all flying about." "Tendrils" have become "locks,' «nd the charming way tliey used to blow about in the breezes' is now considered mere untidiness! i Well, apropos of this, I was talking to 'John the other night at dinner, really trying to make myself entertaining, and thinking how much he must- be en'joyin» my vivacity, when suddenly he intei" rupfed me to say—how charming I was? Not in the least. Now what do you suppose he said?

"My dear," he remarked with solicitude, "aren't you afraid tllose people at the next table will think you're having a fit, working your face as you do?" Working my face! Well, it is just as well to omit what I said. Then he looked at a flne-lookiiig, tailor-made woman one day—she was fearfully made up, and had on about a pound of "barber's hair"—turned to me, and said;

"I should think you'd curl your hair like that, and wear those plain tailor effects," disapprovingly. He had evidently forgotten the time when he poured into my ear praises of ay uncurled hair and my fluffy clothes: I reminded him of it, and he began to read the paper.

After a man has been married a few years there comes a psychological moment when his wife should keep him very busy. It is the moment when almost any other woman begins to look good to him. Then it is that a wise wife will begin to give much more time an'' thought to her personal appearance than before, and should make drastic changes in her way of dressing and doing htav hair. If she has 1 been given to "tailormades" she should take to 'fluffy things, "I.™? v ersa. A man takes the critical attitude towards his wife after a few years, and is sure to see something very attractive in other men's wives. That I is, some men, not all. The very things that John used to think so charming about me he now finds fault with—wit° ness, working my face!

Any girl who thinks her troubles are over —especially her sentimental ones—when she is_ married is much mistaken. Matrimony is' like having black beetles i n _ the house; eternal vigilance is the price of happiness. Now, whenever I see that John is getting restless, I propose that lie shall go down to the club or take a week-end at Brighton; ami when he asks me to go somewhere witV him—entirely out of politeness I always refuse. It is good for him to have to find his own things', sew on his own buttons, and not know where his shoes are, for a week at a time. I never go with liim on these little expeditions, hut when I know he is coming home I go to the hairdresser's, have my head dressed beautifully, get up the best dinner that he ever ate, and I put on my best to receive hira. No matter how hurt I may be underneath to think that he even tired of me a little, P m&ke myself so very agreeable that be is sure to say, "How good it is to be home!"

Now, I am certain that my grandmother never worked so hard to keep her husbaild, but this is an age when men will stray, the Divorce Court yawns constantly, women arc many and eligible men scarce. So if you have a good man hold on to hiii, I say, and always tr to keep him amused and interested. Men are just grown-up children, and must be humored and petted in the same way. Never for your life tell them anything for their own good—they always hate it—don't preach and don't" nag. No matter what you may think— aad your thoughts are your own—don't disagree ; in small things* Go ahead your own way. and convince the dearest man on eartTi you are doing his way, and lie will be perfectly content.

HINTS ON ETIQUETTE FOR GIRLS. When taking leave of your hostess after a dance or garden-party, make some easy- little remark on the enjoyable time passed. When making an introduction, alwavs, introduce the gentleman to the lady—' the younger to the elder, one of lesser rank to the higher. Wine is very little drunk nowadays, and young girls should take only a very little, if any. When offered she can decline, not allowing it to be poured out to be wasted.

Forks are used alone when possible. Nearly all entrees, vegetables, salads, and creams should be eaten with the fork only, neither a knife nor spoon being necessary. ■ Cards of invitation should be answered in the third person. "Miss A. accepts with pleasure Mrs'. B.'s kind invitation for," etc. Do not make the mistake of saying "Mis% A. will have pleasure in accepting," etc.

When leaving an "At Home" or party, it should be left to the seniors to make the move. A young lady should not break up a party. Should occasion oblige 'her, she should seek her hostess quietly and with apologies. Dinner parties are not as fashionable as formerly, and are mostly for the| elders. When girls are included in the 1 party they should Tememher that they are not expected to partake of all that, is handed to them. They can choose I the lighter dishes, and should always j avoid highly seasoned savories. | At a ball, three dances should be the; limit for any partner; and before the I next dance lie will take you back to, your chaperon. Cards should be left ou the hosted after a hall or a wedding reception. Merely leave them at the house,'with a polite enquiry for the hostess.

When refusing an invitation, give your reason for so doing if possible, or say a "previous engagement" prevents you.' A plain refusal is decidedly curt. ! Finger glasses are provided at dessert, .and should he used after fruit hits been j eaten. Dip the tips of the fingers in lightly, and dry on a serviette with a* little display as possible. Cheese is not eaten by young ladies out of the family cirele. When eaten, si small piece should he placed on a piece of bread or biscuit, and conveyed to the mouth with the fingers. After the death of a friend call at once and leave cards "with much sympathy" written across the top. You will not, of course, go in. When you receive cards* "with thanks for kind sympathy" etc., you nmst make a formal call. At luncheons the hat is never removed. Coffee is 'generally served immediately after, and then a little chat is enjoyed, and the visitor departs. Luncheon is always a brief form of. entertainment, and should never trespass on the afternoon.