LECTURE. BY PROFESSOR FRASER.

Thames Star, Volume XI, Issue 3636, 21 August 1880, Page 2

LECTURE. BY PROFESSOR FRASER.

On Thursday evening Professor Fraser lectured in Auckland on " How to choose

a partner for life," and in the course of his remarks he pointed out the causes of so many unhappy marriages, and contended that it was not necessary for a young man to seek for his exact counter* part in a ySung woman, but to look for one who was strong in particular powers, in which he was somewhat 'deficient; to that- there should be a harmony of differences, and a happy and complete union of soul. He showed that women had many faults, but. men far more. He did not approve' of girls and keys rushing thoughtlessly into the marriage, state. The young woman should espe* ~* cially study the character of the man who sought her hand; it was for man to choose, and woman to refuse. If a young man was vain, frivolous, took his moderate . glass, played occasionally at billiards, and talked in a flippant way of the virtues of^x young women, he was to be avoided; fte would not make a good sensible husband. It w.as all very well to say he is a gentle* manly, jolly fellow, and when married he will abandon all these frivolities and settle down. Here was the mistake; habits grew stronger with years, and, that mar, most likely, would become, a drunkard or a rogue, and jmm away in the prime of life, leaving, his widow and offspring in distress.' The' lecturer.drew a portrait of a modern doll,, who being trained to finger the pianoforte, dress,in the latest frshion, employ her leisure in reading hovels, daheing, and fancy work, without soiling her hands in useful household work, would make a sorry partner for life—a pretty Dora—bit one of those wives who make a'"poor man poorer still," If a poor man wants a good wife,, he must seek, her in her homeland see her in the performance of her duties. A girl always on the hop in the dancing hall, and seen in the streets at late hours, was not, a proper partner for a young man who wishes to sneeeed in, life; for it is impossible to get on unless both pull together. : -\ - •; >\