WOMAN'S WORLD

Taranaki Daily News, Volume LII, Issue 146, 17 July 1909, Page 1

WOMAN'S WORLD

"WHAT I WOULD TELL A IIAN-IF I DARED." A request from the editor of '.'Home Notes" to girl readers to tell what they would say to men of their acquaintance if they dared to speak quite candidly has 'brought forth a number of replies, which it would not be amiss for some of our young men to read, mark, and inwardly digest. "If 1 dared. I would tell the average man that, though a girl likes to be told when she is looking specially nice, she does not reallv like to be deluged with flattery," is the answer of one girl. "She lilies a man to talk to her on cvery-day subjects, as he would talk to other men, and to be chummy and sensible with her. She [ doesn't like him to take it for granted that, because a woman's sphere is the home, she cannot have a soul above darning socks, or that because she likes io look pretty that she cannot have an idea outside frocks and frills. She hates to be talked down to, to have things explained to her to a ridiculous degree, as if she were a child of ten. I would tell him to talc a girl seriously, treat her as a reasoning being, make him understand that it hurts her to be regarded as a butterfly— if I dared." " HE SHOULD CULTIVATE APPRECIATION.

I would tell him that he should cultivate appreciation," is another girl's' reply.. "The average man takes everything in the home ae a matter of course. He 13 ready to grumble and make fuss enough if things go wrong; but he will accept a well-cooked dinner, over which his wife has taken an infinity of pains and care, as if it grew like gooseberries', or dropped ready prepared from the •louds. He doesn't understand the work and worry, the petty .pinching, the constant contnvings that make up the day oi the conscientious wife. I w jjj t r „ and make him understand how a few words of love and appreciation repay a woman for her la'bor of love, and how crushing and deadening it is to have ones best efforts takcu with cold, mat-ter-of-fact indifference." HE IS LACKING IN COURTESY If I dared, I would try to make the average man understand how much he is jacking in courtesy," another gir] writes. «o neglects the thousand-and-one little attentions which mean so much to a woman. When he gives up his seat to' her in a train-and ho doesn't always' do tlmt-he too often waits a minute or I two first to see if anybody else will, wicnnce himself;, and then rises slowly ■languidly, and with an aggrieved airM that is a ii act of courtesy very largely spoiled He regards his home as a place where he lias a perfect right to grumble and find fault, to bully and domineer, from morning till night, as j I(J woult j not, could not anywhere else on earth." HE IS AFRAID TO SPEAK. t„ I f^ 0 ? * wou,d te " a '»»" not to wait till he. is well off before tellin» » girl he loves her," yet another replies" A girl who is worth her salt will Jadlv wait for the man she loves, or share poverty with him if need be. But if he docs not speak, she naturally thinks' he does not care, and in desperation she may very possibly marry another man I whom she does not care for, and both lives may very easily be wrecked" Other replies briefly expressed in-1

I would tell him that cultivate the gentler side of his nature does not make limi less of a man, but more " • I would tell hi nl that other "iris do not envy the fiancee of a man who if he doesn't say, Yes, she fairly worships' tiougH u." OU V looks as if Be

"I would tell hi m how much a «irl admires a man with high ideals and linn principles." "I would tell him that it is not only women who are vain."