FOR THE LADIES

Taranaki Daily News, Volume LI, Issue 240, 3 October 1908, Page 4

FOR THE LADIES

, l MOTUKIiS AND DAIIMITIiIW. Ait- HiotJifcrs suilicii'ntly tcniler un-l sympathetic willi aiu-h -yii'ls who iiii- uii tht! point til* ibt'commg is a subject distiiNSi'd |>y a \vxitc;r in a Honk: aiul do they invite the eimtkU'ik'e that is rig'Utiully theirs? Many a »irl has taken a step ilie has regretted all licr life for Jack of a "warning at the psychological moment, and many a one is sad because she hay no one to speak to. She feels she ca»inut tell mother, (because, although kind and all that, she would not understand and might Lli.ink -such a question or piece oi information foolish. I'ut aside your reserve, mothers. .-<et your girls -see that you have not forgotten when love first came into your own lives. The coining years will bring sorrow to tlieni, as to all. tJive your children something to remember wlien the rose-hued future lias faded inio the deud past, ;md life for them, too, strenuous and full of care. There need ibe no familiarity. ,Jii*t , show them that you, whose mothev-lm'e | has never vet failed, would like to live your oAvji young (lays over again in theirs; that you understand the meaning of the luminous expression love has lii'ought into their eyes, and there U nothing to be .'ashamed of. Let ea; h' mother encourage the daughter to ta'k a'bout the one who is seeking her for a wife, and do not .be afraid of uttering a warning should you see anything in him which yon do not approve. Uemeniber her inexperience. Besides, how should she be able to judge when the (iolden Dustman has obscured her vision with a yellow .shower. When she sees clearly again it will be through ibeing disillusioned. Time is fleeting. Your girl's spell cf happiness may 'be brief; a o let motherlove make lier way 'bright and pleasant into tho realm of wifehood. Don't be constrained or shy; but think of the days when someone came wooing to you. and let her benefit iby your experience. WOmN T IN \VAII Mrs. Emily E. Woodlcy, who was said to he the only woman ever regularly commissioned as an olUccr in the UtiiU'd states army, died the other day )n Philadelphia, at the age of seventythree. ".She was the last of 35 young women from Philadelphia who enlist'd as nurses j a the Civil War. She was a widow of twenty-six when she olfered Jier services as n nurse in 1801, and for her bravery und good work Presid v :it Lincoln conferred on her a commission, as captain in the army. She was latnr decorated with a gold medal by Secretary of War Stanton. For a number of years she was president of the National 'Association of Army Nurses of the Civil AVar, which she organised, and was the only woman member of the (jrand jArniv of the Republic.

Till- KKEN'GH WAV, Mile. Kaliieres, the daughter of the President of the Krench Republic, is engaged to be married; but the engagement of .Mile, l'allieres has excited nut the least notice with the exception oi a live-line paragraph of small type in tho newspapers. 'The London Daily Express, commenting upon the fact, says:—"The engagement has had a live-line notice in the newspapers, and the excitement ha> ended there. President Kallieri's •oeenpies a very diU'erent position in J'Yeneh minds from that of the President of the United States in the miuJ.s of Americans, lie is regarded as a politician (which l»v his olliee lie is not allowed to be), lie is esteemed as a man, but as a social factor lie, is practically nil, and nobody in France takes the slightest interest in what his wife and daughter wear or in what Mine, Fallieres pays her cook.

SIWN*. The subject uf spoons is rather a sore point with us just now, but another •aspect is given to it 'by the craze of our American visitors for s poon-colleet* ing on their account (remarks a writer in the (Sydney Daily Telegraph apropos of tin- fleet visit). They all, including the jackies and the marines. Knight souvenir spoons by the gross to take away with them. One jeweller reports that his stock of spoons, ranging in price from 10s to a guinea, was completely cleared out during ileet week, and nearly sill were (bought l>y foremoit tars. "They wn*re real good buyers, and had plenty of money to spend," said the shopkeeper, alluding to above, and he tells of one jackie who, after making several purchases which left him with C 7 10s. took a fancy to a dres s ring, prici l - C:i lHs. "Well, say, I'd like to buy this/' he remarked, "but it'll only leave me with . (J5, and 1 can't getthrough the rest of the day on that." S> he paid 10s deposit;, and the rest on delivery when the ling was sent to the ship. .Many of them bought e.0.d., and never failed to pay when required. Twenty pounds were often eheerfu'ly given : by a sailor for a ring, while the ollicer.s lavishly bought highly-priced rubies and diamonds costing four times as much.

IfKN AND CO-RSmS. According to a woman writer in a leading London magazine, who ma.b it, her business to go round to men's tailors, etc., ;ind possess herself of knowledge thai would plaee her in a position jo speak with absolute authority, the fashionable London woman i* not in it with, the fashionable London man as regards extravagance aud vanity. Ninee corsi'ts are generally regarded as exclusively destined for feminine wear, it may come as a surprise 1o : many to learn that the annual corset bill of many a smart man is much larger than tluU of the average smart woman. This is nevertheless a filet. A leading corsetiere who supplies most of them (remark* the writer) puts down a good customer's ibill at .tlloO per annum. Let no one imagine that only fops wear them, The majority of wearers are military men, who, 1 learn, reipiire a greater amount of padding than civilians. ()tlier s are ordinary welldressed men, given to manly sports,and by no means effeminate. A mail's figure has to be gradually coaxed into shape, and is put first of all into a soft silk corset with scarcely any bones, until he attains by degrees to the full glory of the perfect figure, This process usually takes three months, and live special makes of corsets are employed in the development, or perhaps it would 'be more accurate to say tl.e

■■ repression " nf I lie figure. A jji t-iil i'V vnriety an' niiulf for men's use tlimi for Mm I of women, 1 I nnliiifj; belts are made of stroii" elastic strapped with line hid. and shooting bells are of pink' or about six inelios deep. The riding corset, about nine inches' long—is of liiindsoine brocaded sill; eoutillo, .sCra-pped with kid, wliilo the suspenders attached are of coloured frilled silk clastic. A man's evening corset—from fourteen to eighteen inches deep —is made of exquisitely solt while kid.'with the t,o]> cut ill scollops and pinked out round (lie edge and carrying four 'suspenders. Extra smart men have shoulder straps with those corsets, to keep the back in the desired sliapc. Then there is the golf eorsM, also ill white kid, with silk elastic gores —severely classic in style: and the morning corset, 'fourteen inches deep, in white silk eoutillo, lined with satin. Sleeping bells--another item necessary to "get a waist "—are live inches deep, and made of strong silk elaslic with inlets'of sonic porous material. For the benelit of the uninitiated it may lie slated Unit, the corset is worn between (lie vest and the shirt; also Hi,it. men bv no means desire a small waist. Suit, rather pride themselves '"noil a measurement of nineteen inches, though the average waist, is twentyfour. I hind-painted corsets are Ihe 'fancy of sonic men, and cost ten guineas. The corset ierc to whom I am indebted for this information is loud in praise of her 111:1b' clientele. Thev are no), fid'/etv. ilicy have good t a-te, and 110 matter what othrr bills thev have unpaid slic is always sure of her money, nos-iblv because few men would dare face a summons from surli a quarter. The ladv's indictment concludes thuslv: —"Tjcl not thr lasliionablo man cast a stone at the fashionable woman. All he i' : a 11 claim like her is that he is a means of circulating much money, and. let us hope, of puttina' a fair proportion into the hands of tlvuse who need it badly"

The sound of a bell carries much better Ibrouuli Avaler tli'an through air. Flowers are usually I V';dc<r. warmer Ilian Ibc air about tliem. There are fifteen tons of silver in circulation for every ion of gold. , The l"n i led Stales produces half a a mueb conl aanin a* Clreat "Britain. Tt is estimated that tliere are always 4.1100.000 people a I sea. The Hank of*Kn<rlaiul lias in its employ I,oo'fJ people.

HINTS FOR LOVERS. Soli'i't tin. j-n-l. Afjrec with tin: m r i 3 tatlici' in .politics aml h ( . r mother ill itJ'Kion. If vou have „ rival, keep vo„',oyc on him; if hj, j, a widower, k.-'i, two eyes (in him. l>t. not assure the ni rl Um , V(H| I|;lv ,. no bad hi,hits, it w j|| | K , , (W you (o say that you never heard yoursell s iiore in your sleep. Do not jmt too much sweet stud' 011 jiaper. If you do, you -will hear it read in alter veal's, when your wife Ims some ospeoial purpose in upon vou •the severest punishment known to n married man. {'o home at a reasonable hour in the ovening. Do not wait until tin- -ill lias •to throw her whole soul into a yawn •that she ciumot cover with both hands. A little think like that may cause a coolness at the very beginning of the game. If, while wearing your new summer trousers for the first time, vou sit down on some eandv that little Willie has left on the chair, smile sweetly, and remark that you do not mind sittin"' oil candy at all, aiul that " boys will* be boys." Reserve your true feelings for future reference. 'lf, on the occasion of your iirst call, the girl upon whom you have; placed your alh.!i ions looks like an icebet'"* and acts like a (pii'd,, cold wave, take your leave early and stay awav. Woman in her hours < ( | freeze is uncertain, coy, and hard to please. In cold weather finish saying fioo.lniglit " in the hoifse. Do not stretch it all the way to the front gate, if there is a front gate, and tlun lay the foundation for future asthma, bronchitis, neuralgia, and chronic catarrh, to help you •to worry the girl to death after 'sin* has married you. ■Do not he too soft. Do not sav, "Ihese litlle hands shall never do a stroke of work while they are mine," and " Vou shall have nothing to do in our home -but to sit all day and chirp to tho canaries "'—as if a sensible woman could be happy fooling away valuable time in that sort of style! liesides, she may have a fine, retentive memory for the soft things and silly promises of courtship, and occasionally in after years, when *he is washing the dinner dishes or patching your trousers,, she will remind you of them in a cold, j sarcastic tone of voice. I

THE ONE THING What is most necessary to a woman's liappiitess ■; Is it money," and tin- tilings ' that money buy ¥ Cynical people ,s.iy that, it is. Tlicm- same cynics also tuivise women ■to marry for money, because they say thai in a little while romance ■is bound to fade and illusions be shattered, and 'that then the rich woman lias her establishment to console her, whereas the poor woman has nothing, lint it you started out to paint a picture oi' happiness you would never select us your model tile, disillusioned wife ulio*e existence is linundud on the north by clothes, mi the east by bridge, oil the south hv a yac'h't, ami on the west 'by a motor-ear. You'cannot pile enough rose paint) and diamonds above an empty heart to -top its aching. In spite of all this, however, probably nine-tenths of the women, in the world think that if they just liad plenty of money tliey would be perfectly liapp.V. I "t'lvey think that to see their name in print, or to hear the plaudits of ail audience, would bring them complete Miss. lint twine never 'satisfied anybody; least of all a woman. The woman who is eminently successful has to buy her laurel crown'at n great price. She inUsO {jive up all tli'e sweots of home and domes! icitv. Nile must either .live a solitary life, or else turn over to hirelings all the dear little familiar services that a woman loves 'to do for her own. Hired hands must put her babies to sleep; hired ears must listen to theii' prayers; hired watchers must sit beside their beds when they are ill, while the mother boils with pen, or laughs and grimaces upon, the stage. ■Still other women think that if they had only love they would be 'happy, bull love alone does not sullice. Jt is a strange contradiction, but it is true, tluit as a 'general thing the people who Jove us best treat us with least consideration. All know women who have lived for years with husbands w'lio never paid llkmu '■( compliment, or gave any more iml'ic'ation of the slat'e ot their feelings than if they had been graven images; yet when tlw wives died, itlie .men were broken-hearted over their loss. All kiiwv men who spend their lives slaving,to indulge llieir wives in luxuries but who never show the slightest affection in any other way. 'Any woman 'with .siicli „ busbiiud can s'iit down and by reasoning can convince herself ilial li'er husband loves her, hut. that'sort- of logic only satisfies the head. It does not feed the hungry heart. The one thing tli'ait makes a woman happy is tonder~.c*s. (live her that and *he ittin make shift bo do with very litille else. She may be poor and have to wear inSide-nrer clothes -and last. .vear' s hats, but if her husband is sorry I'or ber because site cannot have ihc thing's lltat she ough't to have, if hi' tells her how lie wtinld like to dress her if he .coulil--she will we'ar her old clothes over a heni't Ufat is ten times as that, -of many « ludv wtio has on the '•■itest tiling from. Paris. And the .man who swears his devolion. lo his iwife at every turn need do little else for her. She has got What kohinoor of happiness, and she feels that «he can atl'ord t'o 'dispense with all ismaller J jewels.— ?\ew Vnrlc American. <