A MAN'S CHOICE. "What He Sees to love in Woman Is In. variably Himself.

Te Aroha News, Volume IV, Issue 184, 25 December 1886, Page 8

A MAN'S CHOICE. "What He Sees to love in Woman Is In. variably Himself.

T;ie complaint is often heard thi: ladies are more restric tod in the choice of br -bands than men are in the selection of v. iro 3: that a gentleman may pasa all the ladies of his acquaintance in review, and delibei utely choose whom he will have, while a lady must eit aC home till eoho cha>.?3 ttick discovers a preference for her, writes Smith m the *' Sout'^sra Eiiouac '" for October. A littlo reflation proves this to be a modt transparent fallacy. In affairs of the heart all men are cowards, And the fancied necessity of then- taking "the initiative still further tenihe-* them. One rejection demora.bes tha stoutest; heart;. Courtship is like dueling ; it ia the first encounter which fiightend. 3>ufc the ladie3 knows larlv3 ma\ be causrht -without waiting for the skies to ial\ When x man's heart ia elastic, in the -pring for instance, when the cap rise? in the maple and-the blood quickens, aLusst any engaging girl may capture him. A deprecating glance of the eye, an embarrassed pressure of the hand, or, above all, a timid assurance that no woman coull refuse him, will usualh bring down the irost obdurate. Everybody has observed ho v- easily ■widowers are caught Before cvi Di3;ant lawa of inheritance were established the person first upon the ground after tli3 death o? the occupant succeeded to the estate, rind the woman, be she maid, spinster cr y. idow "who has earliest access to a beiea' e.i husband is cure of her <^atne. A bella i- taa.Je, tiot by the possession of suporioi beauty, but by tho subtlety with which -lo ievca"u a preference. Very little parcniiry ,«'io»vn a man unaccustomed to social aucce.'^ a>-i:rc» an easy victory. Every man oa\ not think himself an Apollo, though the hut. r ii s\o is the mo9t easily adjusted instfrao i*- hi the world and quickly enables up, \. hen adroitly tcanipulated, to ane oarss vee a? wu wish to appear, but every netherson believes himself posse^-ea of that subtle, anonymous nothing faril to all •svomea, eometia a yclept magneti'ii:, \rhirh fools prate about and wide mci c ci\not dipcover. Sh« who most succes.-fu.l'- i/jtaurfj these illusiona ifi his raisrrep-. *He b\e? the image of himself which ate lefiocc-. The fewer his admirers the ea^ie-t hi 9 cdhqueat. Your handgomo man n.ay be a Hrtle obstinate, for, accustomed to =ucu trioute, ho kcceptß it as a matter of coarse and payg no attention to it. It is for this taaaon that the heroes of society scandals aie u^aally "TuJgar, commonplace fellows, who have lived below suspicion. They vrsia ba trayed by their own vanity, inexpert and awkward, they are both slow and bungling. *• What shall I do?"' asked a joung fellow of Sir Walter Raleigh. " Old —caught , «16 kisginp; hia girl." w Use more despatch," ! eaid tha gallant knight. j