HIS FOURTH VENTURE

Sun (Auckland), Volume III, Issue 902, 20 February 1930, Page 6

HIS FOURTH VENTURE

Dear Miss Rutledge,— As a reader of your weekly column, I wonder if you could assist me with a very embarrassing situation in which I find myself placed. I am a bachelor with a good income. I am 30 years of age and have a nice home. I have been engaged three times, and the girl to whom l am now affianced is well off aud inclined to be independent. Until the present my affections for her have been very deep; now l find myself very much in love with a girl whrf is poor and has not the same social position as the other. Could you please give me any assistance in deciding which of these two girls I should consider as a mate? "LOVE IN A MIST.” ANSWER I am afraid you must give me more information about the girls in question, and also concerning yourself before I »-an advise you specifically. J.n the meantime, what are your tastes or hobbles? And what do you mean exactly by social position? How do tlie girls you mention compare as regards intelligence, refinement of manner, education in the fundamental subjects that really matter, natural poise and dignity? Have you given a thought to the matter of conversation, and again, their general outlook upon life and toward the people around them? Remember that when you marry, you contract to live with a person (with normally few exceptions) every day right through the year and for many years. You will have innumerable meals and evenings together, so you will readily understand that personality and conversation count a good deal, especially when you consider your own inclinations arid reaction to type. Try and see past the veneer of "party manners” to get an idea of character. Naturally girls born with the proverbial “silver spoon” have a better change to achieve most in life provided they have sensible parents to mould their minds when young, but sometimes their “stewardship” accounts are disappointing when compared with those of girls who have been stimulated perhaps by circumstances, or worthy parents, to a career of usefulMy advice to you is to marry the one who will make and keep you happy. One who will grace a home, rich in the harmony of love and co-operation. If vou will ln\ ite wisdom and understanding to weigh up the pros and cons, the choice will become obvious to you, irrespective of £ s. d. ANNE RUTLEDGE.