IRRITABLE PEOPLE.

Marlborough Daily Times, Volume II, Issue 170, 5 November 1880, Page 1 (Supplement)

IRRITABLE PEOPLE.

—. . I With some people fault-finding is a chron 5f complaint. Nothing one does ever satisfies them, they become unreasonable and provok jj) itig, and worry the patience of those the; ;, , live with till it ceases to be a virtue. Evcrfj| nerve grows sensitive after awhile to con||| tinual irritability, even in those we ought t>. • ; love, but find it hard to do—this prominent defect in their character blinding us tl : ;| almost all other virtues they may possess , And what a foolish, trifling, useless war o||| words, generally commencing over nothings; t i and growing into a mountain of heatccjal argument, wounding and hurting with every thrust they give to others, and|§ driving those near and dear almost insane;-;) with their querulous and utterly unreason- | aide complaints. I)o your best and it makosjg no sort of dill'crcnce, and from these ceasc-p| less contentions the foundations of pleasant™ friendships cruinhlo away, and respect and ; esteem discreetly follow, Those living in|| close contact with irritable people weary of# trying to pleise, and unless they have an ’ aiigciie disposition, soon learn to give word / for word and blow for blow. How dread-,; fully unpleasant and out of sorts can a whole family be made to feel by one fault-finding person—once the habit grows upon you it is'*§ almost impossible to break it, and your uttered criticisms and advice, whether they ; contain wisdom or not, all meet with the 7; same neglect and indill'ereneo. These..;tempers are hard to be borne with, and the , homes where they help to make life a daily.. ; torture, are anything but the places of rest |§ and comfort they ought to be. N ILow little of this constant fault-finding § accomplishes any good. \\ ho is the better for any influence that a fretful, querulous person can exert over them ? The qticrulous are never happy, and they wear them-1| selves out scolding and complaining, till they make themselves so miserable they can- • ? not avoid trying to make others so, in which .; praiseworthy endeavour they usually succeed. §| Where is the least possible good arising from sj this constant vent to your own disagreeable feelings ? Does it bring any peace to your S soul, or comfort or balm to your irritated || nerves, or only rasp them more and more? ' Praise and kindly uttered criticisms never hurt or wound the feelings of a friend, g| but harsh and inconsiderate, fretful repinings || are very apt to sap the underpinnings of love 0 and good will. Learn to control these moods S that bring only unhappiness and regret, and ! instead of being one the constant lookout for ; something to censure or condemn, search for ? things that will bring happy thoughts and ; virtues that will bo worthy of hearty praise. Do not let this habit grow, for it makes un- ; happy the best dispositioned men and the p| kindest of woman. Husbands grow in- J different to fault-finding wives, and they become morose and unlovely, living with m those who do nothing but grumble. We f§| cannot be too careful of giving way to our 1 irritable feelings, of guarding ourselves £ against fretfulness and murmurings. fjjjs