TO-DAY AND TO-MORROW

Radio Record, Volume II, Issue 1, 20 July 1928, Page 6

TO-DAY AND TO-MORROW

The Unhappy Heart. LES to those of us who live at all, is conflict and endeavour. ‘More like wrestling than dancing" it seems, in truth, to be, with full measure of trouble, sometimes a little joy if we are lucky. An@ one thing is sure: There is far too much unhappiness that is preventable, ridiculous, pathetic, unnecessary, There are women miserable through broken illusions they should never have ereated; illusions of perfect friendship, ideal love, life without pain. There are women unhappy beeause they persist in quarrelling with friends who fait to conform to their standard. Some ignore crimes in acquaintances and refuse to condone | trivial faults in their friends, who are no more perfect than they are themselves. % * Supersensitive. WE are too easily offended by those we love, especially if we are supersensitive, Longing for that tender, uncritical, understanding love which is go rare that it may almost be disregarded, the supersensitive woman is "disappointed" with life. Young people must expect a few disappointments if they are critical and intelligent. Those who have reached the forties without achieving some philosophy of life will suffer terribly from "disillusionments." Without philosophy we cannot smile at ourselves, nor discern the secret of our dissatisfaction. What happens, asks the student of physics, what happens when an irresistible force meets an immovable object? Tf self-love is immovable from the ego and the instinctive longing for power is unsatisfied, what happens? Conflict-pain from which we try to escape. What are the ways of escape? }

Restless pursuit of pleasure, phantasy, or day dreaming, drugs, or drink? These are all. destructive and inerease the soul’s unhappiness, cause neurosis, even that dissociation of conseiousness we call mental breakdown, insanity. The sensitive, tender-minded people suffer if they fall below their ideal, partly because they feel so intensely that loneliness of spirit which may lead to despair from lack of sympathy. * ‘

Value of Kindness. TPHAT is why kindness is so valuable in the world. Women who seem happy are not necessarily 80. We wear masks of cheerfulness or cynicism, and there are only one or two persons in a lifetime to whom we are simple and sincere. Is this self protection or is it courage? Most women are much braver, more intelligent than they realise; but they fear to face themselves. They hide their loneliness behind self-assertion, talkativeness, indifference, laughter, that so often covers heartache. Why not try to accept life differently, learn to adapt to work and friends, and relations, in 2 word, to environment? If we cannot do the work we long to, let us make the best of a job we must get through, even if it is entertaining hosts of acquaintances. If we cannot live with the people we love, let us try to like better the people we live with. It is better to smile than to mope, to accept philosophically than to waste hours longing for the unattainable.

Waste of time is crime. We have not a thousand years to live. The present is all we have. "It is the present only of which man can be deprived." If, for the moment we suffer," we jean at least console ourselves with the ‘realisation that pain may stir to life a new and finer idealism.-Dr. Elizabeth Sloane Chesser, in "The Psychology of Loneliness in Women." Homely Perfumes, RIED sweet-smelling leayes-mar-joram, thyme, geranium, verbena, lavender pips-make delightful "washballs.’ The leaves should be crumbled, mixed with fine oatmeal, and put into muslin bags. A bag dropped in your washing water perfumes it deliciously ; oatmeal, too, is beneficial to one’s skin. Fresh elder blossom in muslin bags in washing water also has a revivifying effect on reddened complexions, | If the roots of purple iris are washed, dried very slowly in the sun or a slow oven, the fragrant violet perfume, called orris root, can be obtained.

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Richard

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