To An Easter Apple Bride

New Zealand Listener, Volume 4, Issue 94, 10 April 1941, Page 42

To An Easter Apple Bride

Dear Apple Bride, I envy you! You are starting out together on the greatest adventure in the world. But you won’t discover that till you are old. Then you will be looking back, seeing all your little failures and your triumphs as part of the pattern of life you wove together-now you are actually living it-and your vision is enchanted; the thrill of life strong and urgent in your veins. But that is youth, And who would have it otherwise? Dear Apple Bride, you are starting out with love and hope and above allfaith. You believe so in things-in all the magic that the Good Fairy bestows with her benison. Don’t be let down. For you’re going to be disappointed, of course, in little things that your

imagination will magnify to preposterous heights. That is the chief thing to beware of in this beginning of your life together. Fight for a sense of proportion-try and see things always as they are. Don’t let your imagination contort them into something hideous that will distort the beauty and grace of your relationship. It is so fatally easy to do this. Give and take-never fail in your love and generosity. Remember that you are each distinct individuals, and that only by recognising this can you find love and harmony together. These are the paramount things in your married life. They are, one might say, the spiritual side of marriage, and without them there is no real relationship in the true sense of the word. If you have these, the other, smaller things will take care of themselves. A love such as this can laugh at a burned steak, a dusty mantelshelf, or a torn sock. These details will adjust themselves as the months and years mould themselves into the pattern of life you are weaving together. Let it be a bright, clean pattern, with no smudgy edges — no tarnishes or dingy patches. Always try to keep it as brave and shining as your first clear vision. It is the right one. Something that your children can turn to in love and pride-and which will point a way to them through the unlived years ahead. Remember that success in marriage is much more than finding the right person -it is a matter of being the right person, Together, may you build a great happiness, Sincerely,

Cynthia

The conductor called me " Miss" As I stepped on board a tram, Oh, joy! Oh, perfect bliss! The conductor called me " Miss." I’m forty, with a family, But I don’t give a damn, The conductor called me " Miss’ As I stepped on board the tram. -Winifred Glen