QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

New Zealand Listener, Volume 2, Issue 31, 26 January 1940, Page 43

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

Opportunity "T am twenty-two and have money of my own. It has always been. understood that I should go to England to visit my father’s people, but now there is war my family feels I should remain here. We cannot know when. the war will end and I wish to go. Do you think it very unwise?-G.N.B." (No. I think I agree. If you have had your heart set on the trip for so long-and your father’s people still agree to have you---I think it better not to wait. You would only become restless and disappointed here. You are grown-up and able to look after yourself. Life should be lived as fully as opportunity offers.) Years- And Love "T am in love with a boy three years younger than myself, though we have everything in common and are terribly happy. My girl friends chaff me. If we married do you think everything would be all right?-H.S." & (Good heavens, yes. Why not? Years-and the future-have really terribly little to do with love -and the present.) Friendship can be Too Strong "T have a great friend whom I met four years ago when I was seventeen, She has all the qualities I admire and we have so much in common that we are utterly happy together. Yet my father has done everything to spoil our friendship and now actually demands that we see no more of one another, Surely this is absurd.-T7.H.M." (No-it need not be absurd though, of course, it may appear exasperating and stupid to you. It is possible for such friendships to demand, and take, too much. These are important years for you, and your father knows it. It is wise for him to do all he can to prevent you giving yourself over to such an attachment. Try to believe that he is doing.a right thing and perhaps you will come to understand it. Is your friend older than you? Write again.)