ENGAGED GIRLS.

Taranaki Daily News, 4 March 1916, Page 11

ENGAGED GIRLS.

ARE THEY SELFISH! How many girls when they first become engaged really think of the seriousness of the step they are taking 1 To them it seems as if they are treading a path which is leading to perfect happiness, and that not a cloud dims the Uovizon. Everything appears to be altered because they have become engaged to the man they love. Yet there is really a serious side to it all, and many girls are rather sulfish in their demands upon their lover, lie is to give them a good time or what is the use of being engaged? they appear to ask. Flowers and gifts must be showered upon them, or else they are certain the rest of their girl friends will think that their lover is not really very fond of them. In spite of the love that she bears for the man, it is this air of showing off that apparently appeals to muny girls. But one remembers that many girls do not understand what a tax the theatre-going and present-giving lis to a man's pocket. During the whole of her life, perhaps, she has never had the handling of anything larger or more substantial than a few shillings. Very often the whole of her wants and wardrobe have been supplied by a loving father or mother, and she has really no workable idea of the real value of .money. The girl who really understands these minor things is rarely inclined to allow her future husband to spend much on her amusements, sweets and flowers. Girls are often selfish, and expect a man to devote every minute of his spare time to them. Often he prefers to do this, but some men do not, and the latter soon resent having to devote every minute to their future bride. Men view love so differently from a woman. They can rarely see it through the roseate glow that generally surrounds everything that a woman loves. It is her nature to idealise the object loved, and this very idealising will make her very selfish and often exacting as regards her lover. Too much sweetness is bad for anyone, and the devoted lover may even tire of a girl who is too sweet, almost as soon as lie will of the woman who is always showing him how bad-tempered she may be. The girl who is wise will bi just sweet enough and no more, and she will find her lover appreciates her just as much as, if no more than if she was always showering affection upon him. Naturally, lovers think that the world has never seen such perfect love as theirs, but this fact should not make them shut other people out of their life. They should not usurp the best room in the house, and leave the rest of the family to seek a haven in some other part of the building. Love is selfish, and nothing annoys the head of tiie family so much as to find that his favorite comer has been taken, or that his cosy little den has been turned over Cor the young cocpie's use. A little considertliioa jfitoiiSd be shown to the feeling* oi oihera who do not always nee -(tliiags through the rosy glasses of 6.ie .iagagpij coaoie. Tiep there is the other aide to be ■*etoJ'sfe Smco ren are selfish, and '.'.' \ it; ."•->.ij'', tg ircaJnct all their friends U>-<-;<i ccror/ oiisutL of her time , '*>: hiit. (i cihTTio, tfhar* the :<.. »p is ■ '■» iinninesg man, thuso iioiars mfc'y «o so t '•*•- that iha girt can twrt> r«cijj* •. Tnaticrs so that sh« amy to f;c rfieji- . --> - her lover co»«n to ace hci; Lit . «er. who *Te not at c.!l tied, and who.-e Ixi-mc is all their iw>. frequently cannot !,atf« Cuat a girl niui devote ssms of her ''*'• to her family, a wmi or woman j y ii i* utterW «•'«.-J liefor* marriage , w.i' i-.ot ttt.l.* an uiacTuli husband «r wZe,