WOMAN'S WORLD.

Taranaki Daily News, Volume LIV, Issue 99, 17 October 1911, Page 6

WOMAN'S WORLD.

_ * i {i (Conducted by "Eileen"). ! f

THE GIRL IN LOVE J

WHERE MOTHERS ERR. ( Falling in love may he considered a natural incident of most girls' lives, as inevitable an measles or whoopingcnugh. An Irish priest once asked a little girl, "What is the proper preparation for matrimony, my child?" and with true Celtic wit the girl replied, ''A little ' courting, please, father." It is very true. If love does not make the world revolve it adds very much to the interest of existence. So iong as there are hoys and girls love-making will exist in the land, and the unfortunate fact is that the elder members of the community look at the matter as they do. Many parents seem to have forgotten, by the lime their children resell the grown-up period, the days of their own youth, and it is the instinctive feeling of girls Wiat their mothers will not "understand" that prevents confidence between mother and daughter in so many eases. If only mothers would strive to remember that love-making must occupy a big place in the lives of all natural and attractive girls, many mistakes might be acerted, and in «ome cases tragedies, too. The attitude of many elderly people towards the whole question is absurd. WHERE MOTHERS ERR. Perhaps they ignore it altogether. The troubles and trials of twenty years of married life have obliterated all memory of what they will probably designate "silly romance." Perhaps they are of the type which tries to guard its daughters from the pitfalls of love and marriage until they have reached a "sensible age." In either case their mental attitude cannot be said to encourage that com-: radeship and confidence which would mean so much to the young girl beginning life. The very best tiling a girl can have is a real, genuine friendship with her own mother, the sort of friendship that makes a girl talk naturally and simply of every incident in her life. The right type of mother can do muck to help her daughter if she has understanding and tact. By wise and kindly guidance she will help her child to escape the pain which the unsatisfactory love affair inevitably brings. And how many mistakes girls can make from lack of knowledge, from ignorance of the world as it ( is, only girls themselves know. But the 1 mother ought to know. She should de- - termine to keep in touch by every effort she can with ker daugkter's interests. She should know her friends and meet her acquaintances, even if it means considerable sacrifice of time and personal interests. The question of money cannot, of course, be ignored. There is one thing more foolish than marrying for money, and that is marrying without any .at all. The future income must bear a relationship to the social status and position of the girl. What would be comfort for one would be abject poverty for another, and here again character comes in. If the man is of the unselfish type he will cheerfully give up superfluous luxuries in the shape of wine and unlimited smoking. If the girl is practical and economical, with a sound knowledge of housewifery, they can lie perfectly happy 011 what their friends would declare a micrscopic income. That is where the wise mother can guide them. ' ABOUT FLIRTATIONS. The wise mother does not regard her daughter's love affairs too seriously. She knows that the bright, healthy girl flirts as naturally as the bird sings and the flowers open in the sun. After all, there arc two kinds of flirts. Many nice girls are called flirts when in reality they belong to the order of women who love life, who instinctively desire to be liked and loved, who cannot help making themselves sympathetic, and are consequently popular with botln sexes. The girl who regards the oceupa- J tion of flirting as a game, who will flirt, even when she knows that she will make half a dozen people miserable, who deliberately collects scalps wherever she goes, jisof a different type altogether. In all fairness it must be said that thoughtlessness rather than intention to do ill may really .prompt her. Xo woman worth the name desires to add one spark of unhappiness to the vast amount that already exists in the world. Mothers, with their maturity and greater knowledge of the real meaning of life, can do a great, deal to guide girls and help them to regard life from the higher standpoint. Many a girl spoils her own life by a reputation for flirtation. The be.-t type of girl is natural and sincere in her love affairs as in everything else. There is far too much artificiality and insincerity in such matters. S Thus a mother ought to realise the importance of her daughters choosing a good husband in the best and highest sense of the term. She should teach a girl to admire character in man or woman, to grasp the truth that good looks are nothing, weighed in the balance with Hianly habits, that an upright, manly, energetic, clean-minded man who lias his way to make in life is a far better match than the opulent, self-indulgent, selfish husband who can give his wife a good position, but whose record has not been one which would bear investigation. ' The old ideal that the wife must be the obedient slave of her lord and master has practically died out. "Will you marry me?" said the small boy. '"Yes,*" replied the girl. "Then pull off my boot*." The girl's reply is not recorded, but it would probably be more forcible than polite. The ideals of matrimony which were fashionable when primitive man clubbed his primitive wife when she demurred at doing her own work and half of his into the bargain are no*: likely to be tolerated bv the modern girl. The happiest marriages are based on equality; that is why the right sort of higher education makes for happiness in mai ried life. The wife who can be a gooil parlner. who is what the French call as "intelligent"' as her husband, who i> in no sense his inferior mentally or in chancier, will keep her husband's love, re-ipcrt ami admiration until the end. That i* the basis of all true happiness in married lite, and it ought to be the ideal / of every girl who marries.

BRIDEGROOMS FORSAKEN AT THE ALTAR.

I lie recent society wedding sensation, . when the bride failed to appear at the - altar ;it the eleventh hour. is nut without - parallel. Only a short time ago a lady, i, well known fur her shy disposition, on s arriving.' near thi' church to be married. ordered her fi>;><-hiti;iii to drive her home - again. Although astonished at this extraordinary reipii'st, for the bridegroom \va- already waiting in the church, lie complied with his mistress' orders. It tran-pired afterwards that alio had merely 1 uMii'il hack because the crowd which . had galhered to cheer licr frightened her away! In |!ris!o!, some years ago, a marriage r failed to lake place at the last in :;'r. in the most dramatii: circumstances. The bride had been previously engaged. For sonic reason or other the engagement »';i- broken of, and her fiance sailed for ( aiiaili. After some lime she became engaged to a ioca! insurance agent. All arrangements were made, and the happy 1 couple were to he married on the Kasti-r t Sunday. A large number of people were assembled to witness the ceremony, wliich

was just about to begin when the first lover appeared on the scene. The bride fainted, and 011 regaining her senses she refused to be married to the insurance agent. Since then she has become the ' wife of her former lover, who has taken her to his homestead in Canada. LOOKED TO BE CRUEL. On the morning that another happy ' pair were to be married the bridegroom, who had a moustache and beard, deter- j mined to be clean-shaven for the cere- I mony. Why lie had made up his mind I to do such a curious thing on his wed- j ding morn is not known. However, when he was shaved his friends all congratulated him upon his improved appearance. The ceremony was timed for l'l o'clock, and punctually to the moment he appeared at the church. When the bride saw him, however, she had a fit of hysterics, and it was not till some hours too late that she recovered her composure. Sbp then announced that she would not marry her lover in any circumstances, declaring that he was betrayed by his mouth, previously hidden by his moustache and beard, and that he looked to her to be cruel! Everybody will remember the sensation caused twelve years ago by the stopping of a fashionable wedding at the very lust moment. The bridegroom was an exceedingly well-known 1 figure in the world of sport, and the bride was the widow of a wealthy man. The curious part about it was that the lady was the only one who believed in her lover. Everyone else knew his reputation was far from spotless, but they could not, nevertheless, convince the charming widow. Everything was ready for the ceremony. The church had been profusely decorated with flowers, and many well known and prominent people had taken their places. The dramatic moment came when the couple met before the altar. • The bride noticed that her intended husband was wearing a particularly valuable diamond tie-pin. Suddenly she cried out, "Take me home! Take me home! I cannot say anything more now!" To the consternation of all her friends present the ceremony was stopped. So overcome was the bride that she fainted and had bo be carried to her carriage. Later it transpired that tkis identical pin kad been stolen some months before from the widow's rooms.

WORTH KEEPING.

(One ounce of butter equals two level tablespoonfuls. One ounce of flour equals four level 1 tablespoonfuls. One ounce of butter and one-half ounce of flour is used to thicken one cup of liquid in making sauce. When making cup custards allow four egg.-* to each quart of milk. Use four to six eggs to each quart of milk when making a custard to be turned from the mould. Rice will absorb three times its measure of water or a larger quantity of stock or milk. Allow two level teaspoonfuls of baking powder to each cup of flour when eggs are not used. One cup of sugar will sweeten one quart of mixture to be served chilled or frozen. One teaspoonM of extract will flavor one quart of custard or pudding which is to be served unfrozen. One tablespoonful of extract will flavor one quart of mixture which is to be served frozen. One level teaspoonful of salt will season one quart of soup, sauce or vegeI tables.

USEFUL HINTS.

■Flannels and blankets will keep soft and 1 white, and will not shrink, if washed with a tablespoonful of ammonia to the first water. A. kot cloth around tke mould will help jvlly or ices to come from it without sticking. ! A cayenne pepper sandwich will oftentime induce sleep. It is made of plain biscuit, buttered and sprinkled with the pepper. It should be eaten just before retiring. Farmers or others living at a distance from butchers can keep fresk meat very nicely for a week or two by putting it into sour milk or buttermilk and keeping it in a cool cellar. The bone or fat need not be removed. Rinse well for use. To clean white mackintosh cut up two ounces of good yellow soap, and boil it in a little water till dissolved, then let it cool a little and stir in half an ounce of powdered magnesia. Roll into a ball and let it harden. Wash the mackintosh with this, using a nail brush for the soiled parts; rinse off the dirty soap, and dry with a clean cloth. Gum-boils may be eased by covering them with a split raisin which has been heated by toasting it in front of tke fire. , To assist in discharging the matter and to carry away the discharge, hold kot water in the mouth for a few minutes frequently, but do not swallow the water. » Clothes that have been packed away for any length of time sometimes become very creased and shabby-looking. To . remove the creases, try the following plan. Hang the articles on the clothes line in the bath-room and turn on the hot-water tap until the room is full of steam. Leave them for an hour or two, and then dry tliem in the open air and , press on the wrong side with a ratlier cool flat-iron.