WOMAN'S WORLD

Taranaki Daily News, Volume LIV, Issue 63, 5 September 1911, Page 6

WOMAN'S WORLD

(Conducted by "Eileen"). MAKING HER CHOICE. TYPES FOR WOMEN TO AVOID. The day is gone by when women looked upon mar.riagc as an absolutely essentjal event in their lives. This (says the San Francisco Examiner) is the day of the independent woman, who will gladly marry the man whom she can both love and respect, but if she fails to find him, she can and does refuse to carry simply to escape any supposed stigma or disability which may attach to the condition of spinsterhood. But in spite of this increased independence on the part of women, they [ are inclined to think twice and thrice before refusing a man, even if he should not by any means amount to the grand passion of their lives. Girls, however, are to be warned against certain types of, men whom they will do well to avoid. ' Never marry a man to reform him. | It is almost invariably a delusion and a snare—to the girl, that is. If a man is vicious and has bad habits before marriage, the girl who marries bim is walking straight, not into a married paradise, but into wedded Gethsemane. Do not marry a irran who is si spendthrift. He is often rather a jolly sort with attractive manners and a very careless style, which girls rather like, but unless the girl is content to faeo eventual poverty, and perhaps something worse than poverty, she had better let him "gang bis oin gait" without her companionship.

As a rule a spendthrit becomes a cadger, he flings his money about while he has got any, quite careless of the happiness of those who are dppendent upon him, but when his money is gone he does not scruple to beg for more, and to stoop to all kinds of mean devices to "raise the wind." Avoid the spendthrift as vou would the plague. He is selfish arid heartless. Do not marry the man whose word you eannot rely upon. A man who is capable of telling a lie is capable of any meanness and any shabby trick. Lying is one of those things which doctors call, when they are speaking of diseases, "symptomatic." It shows a radical defect of character —a lack of conscience and rectitude and honor, defects which will not help to make a woman happy. No. the liar is a man to avoid. Give him a wide berth. Whatever you do, do not marry him.

fo not marry the man who sneers at the things you-hold dear—the cynic, the blase man. who has seen everything and done everything, and lost all respect for honor and virtue and goodness and truth, and, indeed, has ceased to believe in these things. Such a man will quickly take the. bloom off a woman's ideals, and drag her down to his own level of cynicism and unbelief. And, when all is said, there is no happiness to be found in a cynical, sneering, unbelieving view of life any more than there is any joy in a cold, cloudy day. That sort of thing blots the sunshine out of life, and a lifelong companionship with such a man would be sufficient to blight any girl's happiness.

Do not marry a man who thinks of himself first, last, and all the time, and expects everybody to wait upon him. Such a man is a born tyrant. He seems to walk with an imaginary mirror in front of him, in which he sees nothing else in all the world except himself. The man who loves himself best and first cannot possibly make a good husband, because love is giving and not taking, and is essentially unselfish.

No girl can mistake this sort 'of thing. She will quickly discover, long before it is too late, that she has got a thoroughly self-centred man to deal with, and unless she wants the position of housekeeper, or upper servant, instead of wife, she will do well to give him his conge before it is too late, He simply wants someone who will fetch and carry for him, and the only love he knows is the love of himself, and when he has expended his love on himself he has none to spare for anybody else, however much he may protest to the contrary.

INDIAN CHIEF'S WEDDING IN PARIS. Sioux and Iroquois braves paraded the streets of the Paris suburb of Xeuillyon, on June 15, in full war paint, uttering piercing war whoops, somewhat to the terror of the small hoys who followed the procession. The Indians were not on the warpath, but were bound for the mairie, where Sitting ISull. one of the chiefs, was to lie married to .Marie Laforp, the daughter of the Iroquois chief. The Indians are at present domiciled in a native village at the Zoological Gardens. The father of the bride and his warriors were all dressed in native costume, a bunch of eagle's feathers decorating the brow of the ibride's father. The bride, too, wore the native costume, some pretty knick-knacks in the shape of jewels adorning her neck. A pow-wow was held in front of the mairie, for the policeman on duty, fearing that the oncoming redskins were, bent on sacking the mairie, and perhaps scalping the mairie and the officials, had closed the do»r in the face of the bridal party. An interpreter. explained the peaceful mission of the visitors. There was a good deal of native exuberance about the proceedings, for on the door being opened the bridegroom and his friends, uttering a wild war cry, dashed up the stairs to the apartment where the civil cermony was to be performed. After the mairic's representative hud pronounced the Indian couple man and wife, they next proceeded to the local church of St. Pierre for the nuptial benediction. Here some of the party were denied admission by the verger on the ground of being too scantily attired for a place of religious worship. On the way back to their wigwams in the Zoological gardens the -Indians bought ii]i the stock-in-trade of a vendor of toy balloons. These were distributed among the "braves,"' and attached to their headdress. MOTHER-IN-LAWS' VISITS Magistrate Mefluire. of Brooklyn, in settling a family dispute recently, expressed the opinion that a mother-in-law's visit should never exceed ten days; that, he thought, humanly speaking, was the limit of human endurance, especially when, as in the ease before him. the mother-in-law insisted on assuming the management of her daughter-in-law's household, not allowing the younger woman even to feed and dross her own baby. Mr. McGuire suggested that the harmony of many homes would be promoted if mothers-in-law. instead of paying money for railway fares, bought u typewriter and restricted their social intercourse largely to correspondence. Incidentally, Mr. Mefluire protested against a city magistrate being plagued with the adjustment of family disputes, and said that henceforth he would refuse to adjudicate, and refer the parties to the Court -of Domostic Kelalions. The latter tribunal, like the Children's Court in X'ew York, has achieved wonderful success in solving

problems of a sociological order which ] had hitherto seemed beyond solution., A judge sits daily in the Domestic Relations Court, and investigates all sorts of family squabbles which weulcl otherwise find their way into the Criminal and Divorce Courts—advising here, reproving there, reconciling young husbands and wives, admonishing mothers-in-law, ami generally earning the £ISOO yearly salary allowed by the municipality. New York's population is largely foreign, and most of the suitors in the Domestic Relations Court are either Germans, Jews, Italians, or Russians.