DO LOVERS MEET TOO OFTEN?

Taranaki Daily News, Volume LII, Issue 75, 24 April 1909, Page 4

DO LOVERS MEET TOO OFTEN?

WHAT TUK MOTH Jilt THINKS. J (By u Jlother and Daughter.) There arc ninny dilliculties which beset tlie question of lover*' meetings. Duriiijj the halcyon period of ■■engagement.' ought tin'v to meet frequently? Is the youii" mail wise to cull upon his tiancee every s duy, anil if he does is there not a danger that she may nee too mush of hiiu, or he of her, and -o tliev may become tired of one another? Then there is the vexed question of "walking out," as they call it in the rural districts. This is all very well in moderation, hut it can he overdone. I knew a young girl who always made a point of meeting her lover every morning, walking with Inn to the railway station and seeing him oil. This frequently caused the young fellow to miss 'his train, it made him late at the ollicc, and he got into n" end of anil squabbles with the chief clerk. of course, the young, man bore it. but s\l last his senior hud to speak seriously to him, and it was almost the cause of him losing his situation, on which, ia this case, so much depended. Now, this is to be deplored, and I would impress upon girls not to follow this course. But—if quite convenient— I would strongly advise girls to meet their lovers at the railway stationthat is, at the home end. This, I thin!;, will be found to bring about very luppj results.

The young mail hat been worried during the day with many little business anxieties—he is "tired of the city/' and when the day's work is done, and he arrives at his home station, it must be a great relief indeed to chat over things with "his intended" obtain her sympathy oil things hi general, and on work-a-day worries in particular. 1 say to my daughter and her lover, '"Remember that when you are married you are partners for life," and 1 main"tain that it is good for sweethearts to meet each other as frequently as possible. i It will prove an Index to character mid rto onv's lilies and dislikes.

How often should a young man call on his fiancee? 1 would say, at once—frequently. Hut not to interrupt her in her household duties. Remember, when the young woman is one of a huge family, she liars many duties to perforin—socks to be mended and buttons to be sewn on. Never deny girls the privilege of darning and sewing, it will prove a very useful trailing for the happy days of married life to come. Remember the father and mother. With this last admonition borne in mind my final advice to lovers is this: Meet as" often as yon can, get to really know each other 'and understand each other. It means happiness for the moment and happiness for the future.

AVIIAT TUK DAVCJHTIiK TIIISKS. I should certainly like to see my sweetheart every day. One is always anxious, indeed longing, to see and chat with the one of whom one is fond. No matter how much attached a brother and sister are to each Other, there are constantly arWng in the "tide of life" little matters which sweethearts would rather talk over the one with the other than confide them to a member of one's own family, however dear he may be. But I shouldn't like him to call at the house to see me except at the rlgTii times. Not too early in the morning. ' A girl rarely looks at her real best until about two hours after breakfast, when she has got her hair done properly, As a matter of fact, morning is generally a bad time for visits, even from one's sweetheart. What with seeing the children oft to school, getting the breakfast out of the way, helping mother with the housework, and doing a dozen niggling tilings, a girl's temper ia the morning is apt to be "edgy." Then when "he" pops in and finds you ill a wrapper, with your hair not yet out of "curlers," and you say something hasty, a tiff starts before you know what you are really doing or saying. And all because ''lie" will come at the wrong time. He must not come too early in the afternoon either. An after-lunch nap in the armchair is sometimes as necessary as the night's "beauty sleep." I think the evening is the time that sweethearts should have to themselves. Not every evening, perhaps, lie may have friends to see now anil then, whom he should not "drop" altogether because he is engaged. And no girl should make her lover feel that he is ''chained up," as it were. That may become irksome on both sides. I certainly think that sweethearts should be as much as possible in one Another's company before marriage. I want to study him, and lie wants to study mc, so that may see how we are likely to get on when we are together for life. And how can we do that if we don't see each other con»tantlv ?