WHY SOME MEN DON'T MARRY.
U is true that but few men if U |, v elect to become bucllflui'H iiuti-cc] 'l oth,.V,h l , tUll ' L ':, ltlH ' mi ' u »-liu dusircu, 1 1, , , 'V , , 51i,t, ' o ! si,l s |ci,ll '' i *« mm. * ° r"-' '" tlH '"' "" ;i "' t t» I "'•'»J i.l one time or another. \Uy didn't they marry V Ah t , . ««rub; they wanted to marr , \ »«■«', they actually sought to marrV ■'.hi tlu.ru were plenty of girls about' gin, quite good enough for" them toi core Il' '" y ■""'' to '' l,l ' lol ' s l 0 tllli Well, there is a type of man who, at h..,i'il ♦. "J 11 , 8 '.""'"""t's Imitation edeeules ha sheisthegirl for him; "■■ k "°" s tl.at she is his fate. As it '•'l>!«ns, she is his fate, but not ~„ite tlio way lie thought of, for, whe!, he ■'•tually pops H,o question, he is sent I'l-o'it lus husiness-i„ other words' he is rejected, with or without scorn, as lie ease may be. The girl the,, proceeds to marry mother fellow. Now. that man, as sure as sure can be becomes soured; he takes his defeat ""illy, he is touched on the raw, and he resolves that never again will a woman make a tool of him—never. There is another sort of man who can very easily develop into a bachelor, although quite again,t his will. He seeks a woman who will suit him in everv particular, which just means that n'.' wants a wife made to order, and not an ordinary woman.
He is sure to be disappointed, for n woniiin who will suit auv man in every particular is not living—you cannot get hold of a woman like that, no matter where you turn. This man really wujit* too much, and values himself too highly; he thinks he is cut out for good things, and, accordingly, seeks to marry u woman to whom the word "superlative" applies in every way. Can one wonder if lie remains single all his .lavs J
TOO SI IV TO PROPOSE. Then there in the man who cannot propose—he simply cannot put tile question to a young lady. ILe yearns to marry, and perhaps gets hold of the right girl—but he cannot speak; time and again he makes an effort; time mid again lib is foiled one way or another, and so his proposal kangg lire, and probably never comes off. Also there is the very good-looking young man—a non-marrying type, if ever there was one; he knows scores of nice girls. Ml of them worthy, and quite capable of taking up the post of wife, lie is able
to marry, but what is he to do? lie likes them all equally; he knows he ought to settle down; in fact, he wants to do so, but how on earth can he pick out one girl when he .knows quite well that a round dozen arc expecting him to propose? A man of this kind is liable to hesitate too long, and ere he knows what is happening he is into set bachelor habits—and he sticks to them all his life very often. There is one sort of man who docs not marry—l have met a few of his kind; he wants to marry a girl with a bit of hard cash. Now, we all of us know what a hard task it is to capture the love of a maid with a little cash, so it may he assumed that such a man starts out on an almost hopeless quest. He could marry if he liked, but the very girls to suit him, alas! are maids of the penniless order. Accordingly, he remains a bachelor in the end. PRETTY GIRLS ONLY. Then, again, 1 know for a fact that a lot of men do not marry for this one reason—they, one and all', want to wed pretty girls, whilst they themselves are as plain-looking as a nia-n can be. Of course, they are passed over by goodlooking girls who will have none of them, but, all the same, they really could marry, for they have plenty of chances of marrying plain .lanes. Rutno, they do not seek that sort of wife; the women they marry must be pretty; plain-looking ones they won't have at any price. Result —they evolve into bachelors eventually—not, mark you, that they could not marry, but because they eoulil not get exactly that which they sought.
There are men who do not marry because the women they loved slipped info the shadows when love was in its heyday; they feel that no oilier women can be set in the places which their dead loves occupied, and whether this be right or otherwise, we cannot but admire the men who adopt that course. Yet, it is quite true that many ni"ii want to marry, but cannot—-not that they actually 'could not. but because thev will not by reason of "lot getting jiisi exactlv what llicv want. —Pearson's Weekiv.
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Taranaki Daily News, Volume LII, Issue 17, 13 February 1909, Page 3
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828WHY SOME MEN DON'T MARRY. Taranaki Daily News, Volume LII, Issue 17, 13 February 1909, Page 3
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