WOMEN'S REALM.

Taranaki Daily News, Volume L, Issue 311, 8 January 1908, Page 4

WOMEN'S REALM.

FIRST LOVES. OUGHT \lK\ 111 MAURY Til KM? Tiiere aie u-i- wln-n it may lie a good ior ii man 10 do so. Certain natures, m m oi t uian ii. ua, depth. do not easily ie.|>.iid i„ nk . influences of luve. Here ani t ~!>• are men vvii,,- e whole ciiaiaeter- .. ~ m ull , n hji> m . (j moulded u, ~ , undemoii-in,-t,ve turn "• a. Agii, JU . men who aie i M ru cautious, and have always been on their guard against feeltoo easily or quickly upon the suli- ] Such men as these may appear o outs^ er ' t0 •* and callous, but, none the lew, they feel deeply, and what they tlunk is a conviction rather than an opinion. If a man of this kind falls in love however young he mav happen to be. b s love is probably the one fixed, unalterable passion from which he can can never again be equalled or excelled in his nature.

For him te declare, "This i, my fi r9t love, and bound to be fleeting, therefore IwiU wait for something better," may T ff.™ of hop« and the destruc'uon of his life s happiness thi! kiDd " e for w n .l me and « reat l0T « of a W ' U th "»t its shadow before. The man who ■ able at twentv-eicht wiole and un.wervjng allegiance to the maiden of hfs probab . ly member what a woman it was whose charms i ni ? ht * dream-filled "J* » hl ® when he was eighteen. k.. ®?Ii y ,y ' itt Wch MM «> if Romeo has_ the courage to compare his two " ,UrU(d by the «®Pwison, and either mutter, to himself, "What a yrangfool l must hare been!" or else is filled with silent thankigiring that his lucky atari or the strong advice of fat« ttred W™ from a terrible In ninety-nine case* otrt of i hundred, the man who marries his first love is ™*'"g • mistake. Unconsciously he is influenced ia his ehoiee—if such a word can be used in this connection—more by his surroundings than by the reqiirements of his nature.

Still m hisow® home, or still remembering the womenfolk of his own family —Jus mother and sister*—he ts inclined to discount the qualities they possess, ua to clutch eagerly at something which is lacking in them. He is psepared to * down ess«tial things, which he blindly takes for granted, for the sake °* <®e quality whish ma y hate been absent in his own home.

is so jolly,' he says, "so full of Wn! Nothing stuck-up about her." m his ineiperienee the dssh and fun of his charmer blind him to serious defidendes in education or character—itSsießdes which in his mother or Bisters wonld certainly shock and distress him. llirli, |g the cause wliy mwy a young man has offered himself to an unsuitable life-partner at too early a* age: tceuse Us heart has felt same knd ot tmtfioi whkh seems to answer te the feeling that men call love. It is when lie ia a little older, and has learned to see the world m k is, when he has gained—away from his home—a | better knowledge of the requirements of I his own nature, and has been able by the fact of with many to estimate hi fellow men'and women at their true worth, that riper judgment and discernment come to him, and unconsciously limit the scope of his choice. It is durif this time that he has seen this friend aid that friend get married. He has dropped into the new homes, spent a pleasant evening with Tom and Dick. He has seen then wives, and he has gone away saying to himself, " Poor Tout" or "Lucky chap, Dick!" WIFE AND FRIEND. WHY THE "ORDINARY WOMAN'" KEEPS HER HUSBAND'S LOVE.

An equable temperament is one of the great merits the ordinary woman possesses. Some critics; with a sniff of contempt, say it is the sign of a mediocre mind tint does not seek to aspire, and couple d scathing terms human beiflgs of this West nature end the common garden vegetable. Hive me, they cry, some demonstration of brain—some proof that women and cabbages are not of precisely the same genus! The drab creature who is known as an ordinary woman is so very uninteresting. Far preferable is the woman whose emotions are electric— at any rate, there is no chance of becoming dnll in her society. That is what the mere acquaintance may remark. Not so the husband, whose highest word of praise tor his wife is that she is just an ordinary woman.

A tender, thoughtfal, unselfish creature she is, born mother, whetfier it is her babies who need her care or her husband—"her best boy of all," as she calls him. Quick in her sympathies, unerringly tactful, and of a wonderfully calm and hopeiul spirit. Those are a lew of her characteristics.

The ordinary woman is not a creature of moods, 'lue victim of *ich diecomlorts who prides herself upon her sensitive nature, who is depressed by the weather, jarred by an unkind word, chilled by a look, and crushed by a man's silence is an extremely uncomfortable person with whom to live.

To the husband of an ordinary woman what joy there is in knowing isat, supposing he rtwhes off hurriedly in the morning, with only one kiss at parting instead of the customary half-dozen, he will not be haunted all day long by the expectation of a haggard countenance on his return, eyes heavy with weeping, a trembling mouth, and the sobbing confession—reluctantly made after ever so nitfch coaxing and petting—that she has been certain all daji that he did not love her any lunger, and has been nearly dead with misery in consequence.

There is -uih mutual trust between a husband and an ordinary wife that he might go out three mornings running without giving her any kiss at all without violent recriminations occurring upon his return from work, tired maybe, and truly anxious for the pease Und quietness of lih home. For a display of hysterical fireworks— including sighs, sulks, reproaches, and tears—does not occur to the ordinary woman as possible. Her mind is too well balanced to carrv out such a programme, an I for that salutary fact her husband has reason to be, and i«, profoundly thankful. Men hate Those who provoke them nio-t ci.nstantly—creatures of raw neires. nlio are easily irritated—abhor them mm.' llian :he robust heroes, and, unfortunaith. i.tv.iu.e they incite them so readily, .ire liable to suffer from tho«e of their uomenfolk most acutely. Whit a "imlnrt is the ordinary woman. «;n iu-t puts down sharp words, long - ieuce-. and other masculine character-i-tif-s of that trying type to tiredness "f lui-ki'v-v anxieties, instead of applying tlk-.u to 'man's inconstancy" and ev'l temper!

The ordinary woman's crowning giorv may lie summed up in these words- s| u . makes the of everything. Ilrr ambition- may soar, but she tethers (liem if they become uncomfortably as piring. She is a philosopher in |ietticoats. and an abiding comfort to those around her.