Why Divorced People Marry Again.

Te Aroha News, Volume XXVII, Issue 4363, 21 January 1909, Page 2

Why Divorced People Marry Again.

The way in which the American divorcee rushes from one marriage disaster to another is notorious. One writer accounts for the phenomenon thus: —"A man who hal separated from his wif3 disclosed to me, the other day, that having no home was a torture. lie had found it unhappy to live with his wife —he had a perpetual grouch owing to their quarrels—but now that the die was cast, and they had gone their separate ways, he was uuhappier still. His apartments in the hotel were tine aud comfortable, but he shuddered in the lonliness —he could not endure bis room except therein wearily to sleep. He used to quarrel wretchedly with his wife, at breakfast but now his quiet, lonely breakfasts ■were more wretched. Qften. when he went home to dinner, they had said moan, sarcistie things to one another, while they ate—it wag dreadful. Now he had no dinner of his own to go home to lip merely boqght food in a cafe. He had no place of Ids own i That is what home means a place of your own ! lie was in doubt about which was most miserable—constant domestic bickering, or no home, And I thought that our miseries are always those nearest at hand, aud, therefore, his unhappy lonliness gradually would seem more bitter than liis former deiuestio infelicity. Aud I realized, in a flash, why divorced people weie so prone to outer the bonds of matrimony a second, and a third, and even a fourth time. Having become used to a home—and there can bo no homo without a woman—mother, or wife, or sister, or daughter—the man who gives it up in a rage over his vexations, or over the unfaithfulness that has smitten him sore, is a mau who has lost something for which there Is no substitute. He does not find out the unhappiness of the loss until he’s a maverick. And the woman likewise. Aud so the divorced woman—who feels that her heart hail bled cruelly iu previous odious bomls —tnfcs it again. And the divorced man —who feels that he was the victim of the most infernally vexatious woman on earth—-tries it again."