Heart and Home Chats

Sun (Auckland), Volume IV, Issue 944, 10 April 1930, Page 6

Heart and Home Chats

By

Anne Rutledge

Misa Anna Untiedge teill answer letter 9 in this column every I hunt • day. An accomplished writer, an ardent feminist, a studev.t of human nature and a t cide traveller ehe is tcell fitted for the taste. Those echo have problems and lack a confidante to help in their solution may t cith confidence write to Miss Rutledge, tchoie knowledge will be placed at their disposal A sympathetic woman, she icill assist those who stand in need of assistance. Communications for Miss Rutledge should be addressed to THE SUN office.

■ DOUBTFUL 1 Dear Miss Rutledge,— I should be glad to have your opin- \ ion on the following problem. I care j \ very much for a certain girl, but | try as I will, I can never-convince her ! of my love. Into the bargain, I am j unable to discover how much she ! cares for me, no matter how much I • take her out or look after her. 'ls i there a way out of this predicament? j - EAGER. ANSWER B la evident that you are seriously ! after tel with the “malady of love” and 3 a cure for present conditions may bring about even worse suffering. However, try the following plan. Tell your friend that you are thinking at taking a holiday, going to some re- . mote fictitious spot with a party—old friends of the family who happen to have ; daughter about your particular girl 1 friend’s age. Emphasise the latter point hut be very tactful, and carefully study your lady love’s reactions. In a little while you should know where You stand if you adopt this, or a similar policy. At the same time do not lose !fht of the fact that the girl may have some very good reasons for not ing serious, and by bringing the matter to a head, you will know where you “get off.” There are plenty of girls about who are content to mark time if a young man rakes them out and is generally attentive. Again, many modern young women like to have several strings to their bow, and it is often necessary to measure their stride with some stringent action. ANNE RUTLEDGE. THE EM£MY Dear Miss Rutledge,— A friend, stftne time ago, did me a very bad turn, and today ia still my enemy. I cursed him up hill and down dale, ar.d although time has passed, can never forgive the injury. Strangely enough, I have had nothing but bad luck ever since. I am cynical about life generally now, and wonder if my outlook affects my general prosperity? W.I.L. Most certainly your cynical outlook affects your prosperity, for “as a man ’hinketh so is he,” and if you wouid grasp Fortune’s hand with a hearty grip, throw off forebodings about your fellows and think optimistically of all men. Whatever one’s lot in life may be, there are always the b.ends in. the'road, tho smooth inclines and the sharp upward grades to be traversed. Remember Pandora’s box. When all ills had escaped, hope remained. Curses, like - chickens, come home to roost, and when opportunity knocks —and she is no mendicant—jump to the call. While you must always have a reserve caution, there is no reason why you should not be sociable with your neighbour or with your business acquaintance. ANNE RUTLEDGE. IN LOVE WITH THE MAID Dear Miss Rutledge,— I beg of you to answer my letter in your columns. I am very deeply iu lore .with a servant in my parents’ house. She is a very honest, goodlooking, attractive girl, somewhat older than myself. We have become very much attached to one another lately, but 1 don’t think my parents would like it if they found out. The girl, from what I can gather, is quite a respectable person, but I have been wondering if I should break off the

friendship on account of the unwillingness of my parents. What would 1 • it advise me to d ) tmd 1 The circum-! stances? CrTM. Answer Break off the affair rigl t away, unless j you feel that you cannot possibly live j : happily without the girl. In any case, ! you • ild not expect to remain happy l * virorunent, because of your family and i associates. You would have to go right j away to another part of the country where you were both unknown and start 1 life afresh. The idea of marrying a servant in ! your parents’ home may be all right in 1 theory, but it is very difficult in practice, : and I think you will have many obstacles ! to overcome if you persist in„ paying attentions to this girl. "While she may be charming and as | well-bred as any girl you are likely to I meet in your own circle, you can hardly j 4 matter. AXXE RUTLEDGE. j FIRST AID Dear Miss Rutledge,— I am a young bride, and have a model home. I wish to equip my first aid cabinet correctly. Can you give me a list of articles required? P.R. ANSWER First aid requirements for minor injuries should include iodine solution, boracic acid, picric acid or any burn emollient, a disinfectant, antiphlogistine, brandy, cotton wool, bandages, a clinical thermometer, a medicine giass, an eyebath, adhesive plaster, tweezers, and safety pins. A first-aid dressing used by the St. John Ambulance is Fornax Antiseptic, which stops bleeding rapidly, does not smart, and arrests inflammation. ANNE RUTLEDGE. NEED OF IMAGINATION Dear Miss Rutledge,— Is it possible to amuse children without buying expensive toys? I have four little “steps and stairs’* to keep amused, and we have hardly any spare cash. I should be happy to receive y6ur suggestions. CHILD LOVER. ANSWER Many a much prized toy has been made for a child from odds and ends about the house. It is a fact that small boxes, tips, buttons and clothes pegs hold an extraordinary fascination for young children and if you have ingenuity you can dispense with a full purse and put your efforts into making simple objects, allowing the fertile imagination of your little ones to suggest the finishing details. Children have remarkable ideas of their own, -and too' many perfect toys stifle their imagination. Give them some paint, cotton reels, old boxes and a picture of a doll’s house and you will be surprised at the result of their handiwork. AXXE RUTLEDGE. KEEPING FIT Dear Miss Rutledge,— Would you tell me if there is & cure for “blackheads”? My skin is troublesome in this direction. I am never* free from little spots which spoil my appearance. GIRLIE. ANSWER To begin -with, watch your diet carefully. There is danger in taking too many starches, greasy foods and sweets. Keep up with fresh fruits, vegetables, eggs and milk, drink water abundantly between meals and eat meat sparingly. Do not overeat as you will xause injury in this way, yet be sure that you are substantially nourished, else the machinery of the body, without fuel, will burn up tissues and cause hollows to appear. Consider the question, too, of faulty elimination and proper circulation of the blood. Take a tumbler of hot water, rising, to cleanse your internally, before your bath. Do you get sufficient exercise in the fresh air? Take early morning deep-breathing exercises and sleep 1 with your window open. Insufficient external cleansing of the ; skin is often at fault, and, in conclusion, I advise the use of good soap—to cleanse thoroughly any clogging of skin and i pores—used daily in a hot tub, followed 1 by a cold shower and brisk rub down to stimulate the circulation. AXXE RUTLEDGE.