AM I WORTH MARRYING?

Sun (Auckland), Volume III, Issue 720, 20 July 1929, Page 18

AM I WORTH MARRYING?

A Bachelor Sets Forth Many Reasons Why 3 Wise Girl Should Say— , “ NO 2”

, 3 V- ‘y \ HEN a fairly presentable &\ y. /’ young man With a fairly “Q [l‘ presentable income‘ .r— ' '4‘ reaches the age of 30 Jimel': without so much as one proposal of marriage to his credit. the Knowing Ones are quite ready to put their heads together, murmuring things about "woman hater” and "doesn't seem to care about girls.” Life is like that. (writes “A Bachelor" in the “Daily Mail.”) \Vhen you’re a bachelor they always assume that every girl you meet is dying to marry you: when you‘re a husband they wonder what on earth your poor wife saw in you. That's just What I‘m wondering . . . before giving other people the chance to speculate about it. \Vhat would a wife see in me? “'hat could I give any girl that she has not already got? How could I make her happier than she already is? It is not because I have never seen a. girl that I should like to have for wife that I have never proposed. I've met dozens. It is because I have never met a girl who would not turn me down when I proposed to her it she did the really wise thing. Quite honestly, I don't think I am worth marrying. I am a fairly pleasant companion. but in no way pleasanter than the scores of other young men that the modern girl numbers among her acquaintances. If a girl married me it would mean that she would have to drop all her other men friends for me. I am quite sure she would be wrong there. As a friend in a crowd, a one-evening—a-week companion, I am all right, but singled out as the all-the-year-round One and Only I should almost certainly be a perfectly miserable bore. I'. could give my wife a good home they tell me. But she has a charming little home now, and I really do not see how I could provide her with anything better. Perhaps we might have a house-

something bigger than her present cosy little flat. somewhere in Bloom! bury or Chelsea—hut with servants It_ their present premiums she would MY! a. good deal more housework to do. ‘ Perhaps she would be able to do I little more entertaining and on 3 slightly grander scale than at presentBut when she entertained her MB“ they would have to be other wowI could give my wife a not—lloo*.d allowance as wives’ allowances 8°- m it would probably be a. good deal I:than what she has over from M salary now. And as a married wow she would have ever so many me!" things to spend it on. My wife would have to give 116 attention completely to me if 0“ married life was to be a success. 3‘ should I be willing to give my 11’ entirely to her? I might be will” to do its-but could I? I should try, but I am quite sure!should fail in the end. i have hi; my freedom for too long. I have but used to spending pretty freely on W: holidays. I should not be able 3 afford these if I were married. , I am fond of theatres: but I thil! nothing of a play unless it is folio“ by a supper-party and dancing. 1 prefer horse-riding to walking ” . means of exercise. I have got I“ to expensive tailors. I know I am 6" travagnnt over shirts and ties. All these would have to be cut out or cut down if I were married. ‘ thousand other little luxuries of I“. that have become necessities of 1|“ with me would have to go by the M Naturally, all this sounds like a ‘very last word in selfishness. HG!" 1Y0“ say, is a. man who will not at {married because he is unwillln‘ ” lmake the slightest sacrifice. { Thatmaybetrue...lamm ‘ but not half so selfish as if I M I a girl who sees me only as I all ’o' Ho marry me and then find out a!“ i anarriage that I have become an utta'b' i iflerent person. I One cannot change one‘s life VIM“ ' changing one's character. tooI That's why 1 say lam not yd“