THOSE BROKEN HEARTS

Sun (Auckland), Volume III, Issue 700, 27 June 1929, Page 5

THOSE BROKEN HEARTS

ar Miss Rutledge,— My son, recently disappointed in. jove when the girl to whom he has been devoted for years married anther man, has lost all ambition and mterest in life. He is moody amd disagreeable, and fs bored to death whenever 1 try to take him “out of himself.” is the age to blame for this f 8 * and loose loving on the part of or do you think my son. who has “high principles, is too good for this girl? A.D.S. 1 do not know the real facts of the •isc, j am not j n a p OS ition to pass judg,on eit her your son or his apparfcntly faithless friend. I do. think, though.

that it is better for a person to change his or her mind before marriage takes phut’, -however disastrous may be the results for one or the other of the 1 \i'!t l>*-ar much about the looseness of modern living and the tendency for both st vo drift through life without a goat, but this is grossly exaggerated. Chtroging times have brought all the ingefftfrous devices under the sun to mnueveryday living, and although we Citr/not close our eyes to some of the disappointing results of these influences, W* must not become “surveyors with dismay" Lo- howl with uplifted hands at 7ho transformations that are taking place. Rather let us recognise the .fact that there still exist men who, as ot old, prefer to place women on a pedestal; women too who are born home-makers and mothers. In the breast of most youths and maidens today there glows the desire i to become a real home-builder. Perhaps I the dream may centre about a cottage with roses ’round the door—a two-by-four affair with a little wicket gate, or a Spanish bungalow, tiled roofed and consoicuouslv important—and until tms dre im iJ* realised such young people beat their wings constantly against the bars of uncertainty and delay. Time is a great healer, and your son will soon gain confidence in himself once more. Don’t be over sympathetic. Loss and loneliness are bitter pills to swallow but it would take many tons of lo\e.- salve to soothe the aching hearts of all the disappointed lovers * n^ N^ o^ T LHt»GE. WHO IS RIGHT? Dear Miss Rutledge.— ’ I am doing well iu Auckland, but mv fiancee wishes me to return to

Christchurch where she has lived for many years. Now that we are in a position to marry, she thinks that it will be very hard to have to settle amid strangers in new surroundings. I feel that I shall be making a fatal mistake if I throw up my present position to go back to her environment, for I am happy and have excellent prospects where l am. Do you think that it is waste of time for me to pay a visit to my fiancee and try to convince her that she is wrong and I am right? SERIOUS SUITOR. ANSWER If you really love this girl, you certainly will not be wasting your time to pay her a visit, but it might be a “horse of another colour” to try to convince her that she is wrong and you are right. Yet, you must not give in to your friend. Later, should you fail to be a success in her town, she may be the first to condemn you for making the change. You. naturally, are interested in your prosperity, for where your employment is. there, too, lies your happiness. The responsibility of the household, and all that goes to “pay the piper,” will be your; main concern. But. since you have no greater rival than your fiancee’s love of her home surroundings. I think your well-timed visit will clarify the situation, and you will find that when it comes to the test, she will be willing to “bitch her wagon to vour star.” ANNE RUTLEDGE.