STRIKING THE RIGHT NOTE!

Sun (Auckland), Volume 1, Issue 67, 10 June 1927, Page 5

STRIKING THE RIGHT NOTE!

Ethel has never “hit it” with her own people; and now that she is about to be married, one somewhat catty young woman of her acquaintance is dramatically prophesying matrimonial disasters, on the assumption that no girl who is not persona grata with her family can be anything but “gey ill to live with.” Which, of course, is as unjust as it is sheer short-sighted nonsense. In this world we suffer or are happy according to whether we are rubbed the wrong or the right way. Unfortunately, it is too often our own blood relations who ruffle us; and such smoothing and stroking as may come to us is most often administered by j alien hands. It is from hearts out- j side the domestic circle that we may ' get most comfort and most delicate and sensitive understanding. One can dismiss, with a thousand demonstrable proofs to the contrary, the stupid contention that inharmonious relations beneath the family rooftree must necessarily spell similar discord in friendships made amid the ! larger world outside. Girls who have acutely felt themselves to be the “odd i man out” at home, have won through ! to serenity and content at college, in a | residential club, or in sharing a bache- | lor flat with a girl companion. For the ! simple and all-suflicient reason that ; they have had a chance to flower in i new soil; in the suns.dr of an atI mosphere unvitiated by prejudices and misconceptions. Still

more radiant can be this flowering when the one-man-in-the-world gives his love and trust to the girl who has never “hit it” with her home folks. How difficult it seems for som« people to assimilate that simplest of truths —that there is always someone who can get the very best out of some other someone in this mixed old world of ours! In every heart there is som<hidden harmony that can be awakened when Love sweeps the strings. Over and over again one has seen how the girl who could never “hit It’ with her own relations has made a wonderful and abiding success of outside comradeship; and of that most exacting of all comradeship—marriage. Tt is just a question of striking the right note. Too often, alas, the home folks strike the wrong one. MC.