How to Make the Most of Yourself

Rotorua Morning Post, Issue 5278, 14 December 1946, Page 7

How to Make the Most of Yourself

Perhaps you are ibusy trying to maike the most x>i yourself, but have decided that you are not as socially successful as other women t because they have had all the luck. Believe it or rnot, wallflowers are not horn, but made chiefly by laziness, selfishness or vanity. Now, of course, we are not suggesting that you have- those faults, but be honest with yourself, stop producing ali'bis like "I don't carc a bit what other people thing of me" or "I'm not intere'sted in men at all anyway," or "I only came to this dance because I had nothing better to do and hate dances anyhow." It is entirely up to you whether you spend the rest of your days bemoaningv your fate or whether you put some effort into being liked by everyone. ";If I had Mary's looks I could get away with what she does, too," you probably say resentfully. You may not have the features, but you can give yourself a pei-fect slcin, well-cared for hair, hands and teeth, and ?an evendmprove your figure by exercise and diet. Well chosen clothes to finish, and there you are, a well-groo-med, welldressed woman. Who is going to bother about looks with all tba-t, especially if you are interesting and good fun? But take that sulky, nobody-loves-me expression off your face, or no one will give you a second glance. "If I had money I could go places" is another excuse heard from wall- , flowers. Money is not a necessary adjunct to popularity, and you can make your own fun without it . If money is holding you back from enjoying yourself, you must lack a lot of initiative. "If I'd had the opportunities that she's had to get all that education I could probably be as itneresting as she is, too," is another cry. Well, what's stopping you ? There are plenty of libraries, plenty of night classes that you could attend, if you wanted to improve your mind. Sitop talking about "if only" and turn what you feel you have missed in'to something gainful for yourself. With new interests in life you will' become a worth-while person to meet, not just another wallflower, and you really will be making the most of yourself.