HATING THOSE WE LOVE.

Putaruru Press, Volume IV, Issue 133, 20 May 1926, Page 3

HATING THOSE WE LOVE.

THE SUDDEN PASSION. (By S. H. D. Johnson, in the London Daily Mail.) “ I hate you,” says the ycung wife to her husband after their first quarrel; and for the moment she means it. Later she learns to keep her sudden hatreds s-ecret. Hatred is an emotion which cannot be avoided, by people in love. It is caused by a sudden, blinding flash of self-revelation that lays bare the essential loneliness of existence. People in love have a habit of adding their own ideals to the characters of those they love, and the occasional discovery that there is about them something antagonistic to their own personalities is an unforgivable tetrayal. A woman of culture will very often mftrry a man of the sturdy, stronga eked type because she admires the brilliant career he is making by sheer vigour and determination. At times she is sure to hate his strength and, lack of “ sloppiness,” and his grip of the essential earthly things; just as he in irritable moments will despise her fastidious refinement. Yet neither is disloyal, and both are aware of the depth of the other’s love. When the mood passes they are as affectionate as ever. The distinctions of personality come as a shock to most people in love. When the sense of unity is most positive there come moments that throw into relief the fundamental differences that make the Ego. These are the moments of hatred. They occur to all who love. The doting mother whose tiny son is persistently rude to someone she esteems is as capable of sudden hatreds as the wife who discovers in her husband a fondness for placing his stockinged feet on the mantelpieoe.