BEFORE MARRIAGE and AFTER.

Poverty Bay Standard, Volume X, Issue 1190, 1 November 1882, Page 1 (Supplement)

BEFORE MARRIAGE and AFTER.

Bepobe marriage the young girl will generally know or have some idea when the young gentlemen will come to see her ; she takes great care to look neat and pleasing, waiting to receive him in a tastefully arranged room. And what of the youth ? No matter how much “ out of sorts ” (as ho is opt to term it) he may feel, he will dress in his best, and start for the home of his lovo. They meet with a olas of the hands and a pleasant smile, have an agreeable evening’s visit, then part with a kind good-night. I do not ssy it is wrong if there is any true love in it; hut how different it is to the love in after years. We too often miss the sweet face and pleasing appearance of the young girl in the wife. And the youth, whose only aim was to please his lady-love, now seems to have forgotten all the little courtesies and gentle attentions that are needed just as much iu the husbanp as in the lover to make home happy. Ho finds many other things to look after, and utters many harsh and thoughtless words. You may see the wife of only a few months in a slovenly dress, hair uncombed, the house in disorder, and nearly time for her husband to come home. It is no wonder he is unhappy, and even tries to give a little advice sometimes. I make no excuses for her. She may have plenty to do, and more than she can accomplish ; still she can If she will, always look neat, and meet him with a stnile, Then, on the other hand, the wife may try hard to keep the sweet, girlish ways of other days about her. but the husband will think to himself, Now wo are married, and Mary must not expect me to bo ths same as before, I have no time for love ways now, there is to much resting on mo as head of the hoßse." He takes no notice of the neatly kept rooms, and the nice dinner just to his taste, and the loving wife who always meets him at tho door with a smile of welcome home.