Don’ts

Huntly Press and District Gazette, Volume 3, Issue 6, 27 February 1914, Page 4

Don’ts

j A FEW FOR HUSBANDS. Two little books, very daintily bound (Gay and Hancock, Ltd.), have been compiled by Blanche Ebbutt, entitled, “Don’ts for Husbands ” and “ Don'ts for Wives." Here are a few samples : —- Don't keep all your best jokes for your men friends. I.ot your wife share them. Don’t be too grave and solemn. Raise a bit of fun in the home now and again. Don’t say anything to your children that may tend in any way to lower their estimation of their mother. Don’t quarrel with your wife. She can’t if you won’t. Mud sticks, and so do words spoken in anger. Don’t shout when you are angry. It isn’t necessary to let the children or the servants know all about it. Don’t'rush out of the house in such a hurry that you havn’t time to say “good-bye.” She will grieve over the omission all day. Don’t keep up the “ poor little woman” pose too long. A woman may like to be a plaything for a little while, but the novelty soon wears off. Don’t look at things solely from a man’s point of view. Put yourself in your wife’s place, and see how you would like some of the things she has to put up with. Don’t expect to understand every detail of the working of your wife's mind. A woman ar- “ rives at things by different ways, and it is useless to worry her with “ Why ? ” does she think this or that. Don’t think that it is no longer necessary to show your love for your wife, as she “ought to know by this time.” A woman likes to be kissed and caressed and to receive little love-like attentions from her husband even when she is a grandmother. A FEW DON’TS FOR WIVES. The “ Don’ts ” for Wives are equally candid : —- Don’t be out if you can help it when your husband gets home after his day’s work. Don’t expect a man to see everything from a woman’s point of view. Try to put yourself in his place for a change. Don’t be jealous of your husband’s work. If he is any good he is bound to be interested in it, and after a 11-he is working for you. Don’t cease to call him by his Christian name and begin to address him always in the children’s presence and out of it as “ Father ” or “ Daddy.” Don’t worry about little faults in your husband which merely amused you in your lover. If they were not important then, they are not important now. Besides, what about yours ? Don’t be a household martyr. Some wives are never happy unless they are miserable; but their husbands don’t appreciate this peculiar trait. The woeful smile is most exasperating. Don’t wash your dirty linen in public, or even before your most intimate friends. If there are - certain disagreeable matters to discuss, discuss them in complete privacy. Don’t snub your husband. «•» Nothing is more unpleasant for lookers on than to hear a snub administered by a wife, and it is more than unpleasant for the husband; it is degrading. Don’t quarrel with your husband. Remember it takes two to make a quarrel; don’t you be one of them. Lovers’ quarrels may be all very well, but matrimonial doses are apt to leave a bitter flavour behind. The quarrels of spouses are not always the renewal of love.