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Gisborne Times, Volume XXVI, Issue 2366, 5 December 1908, Page 9 (Supplement)

SHOULD LOVERS BE EFFUSIVE?

In the majority of eases when two young people become engaged to- be married, their first impulse is to ask and tell everything they can think of concerning their mutual affairs. More mature lovers, having usually been taught by experience, are apt to bo less effusive. It perhaps is a natural desire of overwhelming affection to lay bare one’s heart and soul to the beloved, to have no concealment, no- secrets, one from'another. Which desire, like most natural instincts, when properly exercised, is an excellent thing,, but when misdirected or overdone it- becomes a mistake, it may be a misfortune. Confidences between lovers is notonly a good thing, it absolutely is necessary if there is to- bo harmony and' consequent happiness for the two who are to be one (says an experienced matron). But confidence and confidences are by no means identical, and the latter may, and often do, injure, even destroy' the former. Tile Indian proverb teaches: “Never volunteer agreeable falsehoods nor disagreeable truths,” and the one precept is as conducive to the smoothness of human intercourse as the other. If one knows something the telling of which can only cause trouble and pain with no mitigating good 1 results, by all means it is the bounden duty of that o-no to keep the knowledge to oneself, however difficult it- may be to do so. It is only when the telling will prevent future evil that to speak plainly is a duty. -\