JEALOUSY AFTER MARRIAGE.

Gisborne Times, Volume XXV, Issue 2065, 27 April 1907, Page 4

JEALOUSY AFTER MARRIAGE.

(By Dorothy Dix.)

AVJIOII a man is afraid to remark at tlio breakfast table, even mildly and casually, tliat, from what lie lias heard, Cleopatra was a beautiful woman, it is fair to assume that the spectre of constant jealousy dwells in that household. When a wife fears to look at the moon because she may be accused ol admiring the man in it, the husband needs to be gently reminded that he is taking a very rapid shortcut to killing the love lie seems to hold so sacred. Love is fed by confidence, frust, faith, and serene, restful reliance, but morbid jealousy is a poison of doubt, suspicion, and injustice that dulls the love it does not deaden.

Jealousy, in a mild form, is inseparable front real love. It is the heart’s guardianship of its treasure; it is the hunger for the sacredness of sole jiossession; the righteous demand to be first, absolute and supreme ; the instinctive protest at even the thought of another sharing in the little tendernesses, graceful attentions, and words, looks, and expressions of love that should be concentrated on one, not syndicated among many.

But this instinctive jealousy,though roused in an instant, falls 'gently to sleep again,with a smile of peace at the recognition of a false alarm ; it makes sure that it is suffering from a real invasion of its rights, not from the fancied wrong that fear creates; it guards itself against solidifying the semblance of a suspicion into the solid, impregnable substance no truthful explanations can melt. This proper form of jealousy realises that it is Love’s guardian, not Love’s gaoler; and it does not go round constantly with a thermometer to test half-hourly the tomperaturo of loyalty. Joalousy, in any instance, must belong to oue of two classes. It isl either justified by the facts or it is I not; it is a right charge or an un-J just oue. If justified, the oue who'

causes it, in ono or two instances, may do so through thoughtlessness or because of a less finely balanced appreciation of tho demands and duties ol' love, for some natures are more wounded by a look than others by a blow.

Hero a few words of protest may bring a new course of notion that is absolutely jealousy-proof. If the offending acts become a continuous performance, then tho offender is unworthy of either tho love or tho jealousy. Hut if the constant jealousy is undeserved, the ono thus continuously storming in jealous tempest is not worthy of tho lovo and loyalty thus unjustly traduced and put to scorn.

This morbid jealousy is a real, sad problem of tlio married life of many homos. It may break out at any moment, and many a guest, as lie passes his cup for more ton, is struck with .surprise at the strange expression on tho face of the hostess, sees the lightning flash in her eyes, and watches it strike tlio innocent husband at the end fo the table, and tlio guest almost hears the thunder as he hopes ho will he home before the cloudburst, comes. And the sudden sultry atmosphere and that strange flush, with the air of the room surcharged with electricity, may all have come in a moment with not the slightest real justification. To morbid jealousy, civility, just of the ordinary typo, becomes flirtation; indifference, disguised feelings; good spirits, conscience masking a wrong; silence, thinking of someone else—all is translated by the cipher code ol jealousy. Jealousy always plays with loaded dice—the east is always foreordained.

To this morbid jealousy explanations mean nothing but aggravation or a change oi' base of attack. The most tactfully delivered explanation is dexterously caught, and with- a whisk ol the vocabulary is quickly transformed into a foaming whippederenm conviction of some other phase, while the innocent sufferer, in a dazed way, wonders how it was done. This unreasonable jealousy is hard on. two people—the subject and the object. Its presence in the home means a problem for two —one the overcoming of a morbid suspicion and the other somehow to keep the sacred flume of love burning despite the suspicion.

SUBMARINE SIGNALLING. A NEW INVENTION. All interesting report has been received by the Federal Defence Department from Captain Collins, Federal representative in London, on submarine signalling. Captain Cresivoll, Director of the Naval Forces, says in reference to it that it is an invention that belongs to a Boston company, “it- adds another field for employment in tho art of navigation,”" said Captain Crcswoll. “With ordinary sound signalling it is so difficult to locate sound that no absolute reliance can be placed upon it. With submarine signalling tho conditions are much more favorable. Sound can ho heard up to 14 or 15 miles and in addition the exact bearing and direction of the sound can be ascertained.” In the report furnished by tho officers of tho Admiralty it is stated that it would be possible for ships fitted with the signalling apparatus to navigate in fogs with as much certainty as in clear weather. The invention was based firstly on tho fact that sound was transmitted through water at the rate of 4000 ft per second, as against 1100 ft in the atmosphere. In addition, tho distributing factors of water were not nearly so great. The sounding bell had an enormous thickness of lip, and it gave a peculiarly high note. It was worked either by electricity or compressed air, or by the ordinary motion of the waves. An ingenious part of the contrivance, however, was the receiver. The great difficulty to be overcome was the ordinary noise of the ship’s machinery, and one of the conditions required for the transmission of sound through the water and securing its record was to have a tank in the ship containing a liquid heavier than water, and h.v knowing the direction of the ship’s head the direction of the danger could be ascertained within a point or two. The American coast was being fitted with these submarine sound transmitters, and on the large passenger liners receiving instruments were being installed. Although Australia was not a thickweather country, there were many lilaces on the coast where sounding hells might he established with advantage.