DISASTERS AS INCIDENTS.

Evening Post, Volume CXV, Issue 35, 11 February 1933, Page 20

DISASTERS AS INCIDENTS.

The great secret of a juceessful marriage, Mr. Nicolson confided, is to '^treat all disasters as incidents and none of the incidents as disasters." One of the dangerous periods in marriage, he said, is between the end of the first phase of marriage and the growth of the nest phase, married love. He said he did not believe real married love could develop in less than ight years. His wife interrupted to say that it was nice to be in love aa long as it lasted, but that it did not lar-t.

They contended that while a married couple might not have a community of interests it was important for them to have the same sense of values and the same ideas! as to what counts in

life. They.added that both parties must be considerate.

Misa Sackville-West dismissed as "old-fashioned" the belief that women are incomprehensible or puzzling creatures.

"To understand woman," she said,

"you must understand her vanity and all the old instincts of submission."

She added that man-had taken it for granted that they were of first importance, and she compared men of to-day with old conservatives who see their privileges menaced on all sides by women. <(The old system was very bad in that it taught men to be domineering and women to be what you call feminine,'' she declared.

In his remarks on divorce MT. Nicolson said that although he believed it should be made ..easier he thought it should take a longer time for the decree to become final.