YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN AS COMPANIONS.

Dominion, Volume 2, Issue 583, 11 August 1909, Page 3

YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN AS COMPANIONS.

, Mrs. Creighton. writes inthe-'fQuiver" on the modern ;young- ■ woman,.-..■ and pleads strongly,; for her .training. in . independence. She does'not ■blink, the fact that this training has its-drawbacks. She says':—'.. , The chief, thing to. be realised .about' their . independence is that in gaining it they have • lost a certain .amount of charm.;-They are too capable, they are too clearly able to take . care of: themselves; ■ there.'is'-. sdmethW almost aggressive in their perfect; ease; and something ■'.which, is-certainly' not -attractive in, the way they jump in and. out of trains and omnibuses.'in motion;-' -Perhaps their independence, i3'too new for. them to'be able to wear it gracefully; perhaps 'we have got , too accustomed to consider helplessness'-as an almost necessary part of charm. ' '■■"••- . , .? a PP ;i ? 'he doe 3 not think ;that-this'{tran- , sitional defect, is without a remedy. argues:— ■,-,- ,•'.-■; .■.■•'';■■: ■.-;.-../ i •'. • ■ . The only thing that'can really make up for this, is .that young.men and women learn, how to, be, real companions', both intheir, work,-their studies,' and -their; recreation. At. present their, intercourse is too . often: limited to mere - trifling; for 'companionship each turns to those of their own sex.. When they have discovered all that is to'be gained by companionship with one an- , other,,'tbey will see thatv'th'ere is something each: can give the other, .some kind, of helplessness in .each which, makes appeal to the ;.- other. The woman will''be grateful for the man's strength and wider outlook; the man ', will find in the woman a power of sympathy,' ,' a. delicacy of perception, which is "wanting ' in-his-men'friends.' '; ■' .. ■;,'? ! But" to ensure the' advantages of this companionship the' elde-3 must ndt bo afraid to -.-, trust the young people. -'~ : :