MAN THE MARTYR.

Dominion, Volume 1, Issue 78, 26 December 1907, Page 3

MAN THE MARTYR.

'.'There, is ,onelpriyilege.whichman ; still re-' eerves;.. exclusively*}:fc-r. s . hiih'self—his-iridis- : putabl.e /right :"to ;.grumblo ■• (writes 4 Madeleine Ghetwyndo, in ■the.'f.fDaily Express") :—Up; tp the-present, in spito'; of■ the.;rapid -progress of, woman., towardsjifTepdom: pf thought and action;"•* eh'e. ,-in...establishing any right. , - .tbr.pafticipa'te'iin.:. this m'ethotl'of relie\'ing^'herself.: of ■'• aiiy littlo extr'a.irntabilityjor. ; mental strain. •■•. ■;• '. ,A man .wakes up wiith.'a' )iyer, or ho gets • ' letter :from ■his , : ; .bauker : . ; itilling' him -His B«scbrait is - oyertlrawn :to 'such-ajidrsuch'. an extent'.;■"; ,Instea(i!. of ,b]qw. with the^manly .reser-vei. and which,- ac- , cprdingitp be -naturally. out. of; ten -to-jvent;.his; anno.yance ;<>n ioy"erythihg ,'animafo. :'or'.'iTiSriimato -that js : unlucky, enough't.ito 'cross L ; hi^...lin)D : qf; v y,isioji. v .He. sugars 'at.--'-the " ■'sen-ants,' '/disphar'gra : tiid groomi' i-Bc.ks": :.the •.dogs,".'.| scolds'" his wife', ■ slains. a; few. doors, ami", finally lea vr ihg..be|]ind.:him ia fl'cli'aqtjc : and a'ggrie'yed. househpld; but''feeling:soothed itjid , 'af peace'-with-himself:i^:',; : ,■..,;■; ..'■ ~.•■'.■ ButVshpiiid .a -.womaii ;• bo;. facwl with an extra' heavy ■'. 'bill'Vqr;.: an.' "a'c;t£e attack -of '■ '"• |'«:_oine"■ even ; :T a trifle'- snappish, ;.'he.r'-V.mSte" -immcr' dia.fcely. ,vi<>w...themselves :._ in. the' ; ! light, of noblfe,']ong T sHffering': : maftsTS,' '"ami ; murmur th'e-'hffckiieyed-phrases , ;sb"-:dea'r..'tb' the- ma-sbu-lino '.mind: , a J boiii ; .:s'fnptfi!' : woine'n,'.' Ba,tisfied',". "and-so .on"; j while if ' she .'so • far forgets,:hwself as;to; '-indulgp.,' in■'"Va'.:,ftiVof' hysterics, 'hei-.-hu'lband V 'says impatiently',' ,"Oh,« f6r';"-goodrie ; ss': :: lako'' ''doii't ■ niakb'd sdeheivf-.nngs' , -; for"'.a: : ma'id;..to ~: ;a dmirii3ter.. sal-yolatile,. and : goes" off ; to .'the club . until pMcoMs'^estpreu.. , :-':^- ■ >.;' i'..;:<-'-'-' : ' Happiiy pruinWing. ■';.;., Vi. -• • ' : - • Ho fgrumblos comfortably '"-"■; on , the ■ way »bput;women's '.neryeV-, aii'd foolish ! lack.'of self-restraint, blissfully . .ignoring < his'.pwn outbursts .of -.temper, j -.and ;.failing to- reflect that : his.;.wifc, .being.-.perniitted to...siveap and"- throw..-'thmgs. aHput, ■' ■ has', lio ' 'otter inothod ; of ■:'relieving -iher- ; ■ • feclJngi"...-,.;■?''■■•■ •?V.;;;-'v.i;'j./.,:/: : ~■■.' .V • ; One reads..'so often' .-.the '.dutpoiiririgs''' of .kind ,'pedplo; wsb, : endeayqur".by;,.wdras ■ of wisdom .to -^teach,:t-Hp'-.ybung'wifoj.- or., bridoelect,- the;best husband's affjectipns and. smoothing" tho;path of matrimony.. ';v,.-; : :;';,';> ;.■'.■'.;,^ ; V v ;.;„:• z^. , r ..'lt -is■-a , ;■curiqu-s i thing'--that;:'all -.this ■ vibe/ie always-jdirected.'towards , ; the'-' wifo': .Nerer'.bo; crqss.. .- ; -'.j. .. v •'.'. ~ ' . ~: . N-evor.frowii.v.i' , ;;""' :;.';"V" ■_■'.:.':■' : ' '■' "'•','-.' 'Never be .ijl, , or-if-ypu^a're, , never, show it: • Never .appear,;.tired. v .\- .;;:-■/'.•.,'' ■ ■ "; .Nevei;..]o6k r un.tidy. .;. ; ,C...:, ":.■ ■ . ; Always. be'; smartly, dressed,'. whether' you, have.^ any.',;m6n^y : t'q;drO3s"on 'or not , ." . ' '■'] , ; Never.-ask ■your--"husband ■;•'- questions; o'i worry .him.--with,Vlittlp,,,household; details! Buph as^tho^cppk.S:ill-temper .or the honsc;ma,idy:impertiri'biice.;" ," ! -' .'" "■■''',', ■'■/'• iUways.'. appear - .■• in WhaWer 3 subject. your " loixl/and. 'ijiaster; may elect , " about,., i ;no,.".mattar. : :...wh'pther y<)u have' fprty'jtiipgs before, or;not.' !':'■.- And'so on ad'iriflnitum.: -'! ■' .-•' • 1 Mascullrio Maximum."•■'.' '-," ; : * V ■But' WsbfiiJd.' ' 'Oh', "dear io! Tμ;. most, suggested ;*x> Mm is/.tnat be , should' now -ari'd" thciv tako/his. , wife: _aibunch, of'■yiolets. ; o'r..t«ll her, , that j'shc is still - .young" and •_ pretty '.in , his eyes/ , or' -that her how dress is.becbming'to'jier./.' :. ,"Np, one "bjer;. , thinks;.pf j telling .him to bo' •patieht, to refrain from ' getting.' into |tsn> .pers^bofore,th'o-.chptJ'Wn,- or..poihjfa put that, Ks. appearance.'.unshaven , ',.and. in, py/ama;. and carpet slippers';may not" strike' suclv'ad-' mira.'tiqn '.to .■his.:.wH* ll e..H«Mt':'4s' does a.w.ellfitting- suit and' a clean collar.-• ••-.-■•"' ■/. ,- .. : Iti ■ tho ayerago, nian!s. : min'd;'tho. p.'imeval belief is. still,,firinly anil' ineradicably; rooted that'.it is woman's .sqlpjjoy aitd. dutr to .at-. tend .on him and minister to'his ; -waita| arid also, that when^_ho;has ,'oncc deignoJ.tq Bestow on her .'the, privilege; of 'proviiing him with; meals, managing ,-jlis.. houseWld,' a.iid bringing ',up his. children,' -it : sliould.'bp. quite enough,for".her.; . Aridit is. to-him. that;, wpiiienf.'havo i.dareT- to hint' that, '■■ however .much.;. they":. may ?aluo ■ ,i.rid thcso;"priyilt^es, :, '.tlicroja"r6' t-iniea when'.thiy vyoiild enjoy. ' a ■■•'• littk...variation and.; respite ■from :.tho rqutirio.of; "Any orders , for' the .butchorj.,please!m?"' or iPleaeo' 'm, tho- kitchen' chininpy is Isniokirig' and" cook eays '•■ sh'o /can't , dp: nothing! unles) it stops," which goes''on all dayllbrtg. • - : -j- r \ ,( ' ■■■. ; '.",■■]'■' ;-.. . '.aj ; v : . ;_: . ■All" this mnst-,be ■dealt' . : ;witl,! no. mat.ter whether tho. wifo is 'ill or-tirMli- 'and. yet she niust always appear. shii)ii« and .cheerful ;at;dinner-tim"o., :when-,';her/;.husbaiid tnriVs snappish arid < short-temjered from his wpi'k, to grumble .because'-'-lip -ehirt is. not pifopbrly starched,. som'e.-foq ; Uss.,put ■ his Spcks -into the drawer eisclVsively- reserved for. collars, ,tho soup : ,is too tluck, the fish is-/iipt\ cooked 'enough;';; ,fifi., pheasant, is overdone-, aikl. tho .■.housohad'" altogether. is misqrtibly '. m.ismanagccT a-ifl.', uncomfortablo, after .which 'ho, , suwridce'/nto.an armchair with a'cigar>and a newspppr, and-probably goes to sleep. , .- -'-:'■.■ :ij :.'■/.:'' ■■ -'■.:' ■■." 'Taken 'all round; -in .spite f of his com- , plaints about'tho' mde^iulcnco , of -modern woman and her ' ■ o'n'cro/chmciits ,npq'n his rights, , ,her. treepa"ssing7 into; , , realms which bo ;oxclirsiycly.">is'.<pwh, I. do "not thihlc that .tho 'mai'upl tho present day has syclr a .biul.timo .^'ml,. then ho has :' such a .glorious,' "jio'or-fa'ilmg ' ! pause for grumbling.-in-'the fa;t',;'that" , : tho modorn athletic, ""literary,' proiisme'ss' women cannot make' gofxl.'solf-sacrificing ' wives' as their mothers "and grandiythcr.s'.did;, or that, with'•• woman's extVav/ganco,, loyp , of luxury; and 'passion-for amiifcraent, it;is.impossible for a man nowaday/ to , unless he is a' millionaire.' - So/the;. "poor, martyr must live in a cbriif6rtat(o;fl'it .fitted with ovofy TX)ssiblo modern othvonienco, with catering end valeting doiW.-oir ; tho, promises,- and grumblo",over .his/wops, wth tho same old ' inconsistency of vluchiAdftm uas tho first shining example. <