Domestic Life.

Alexandra Herald and Central Otago Gazette, Issue 379, 13 August 1903, Page 7

Domestic Life.

BESr UNWED. BOREMOST among those by whom matrimony should be avoided,' if they -would preserve happiness, is the ambitious gj r i \ Doubtless her capacity for loving is equally as large as any other, woman's, but, if she has consecrated her life to win | fame, once the novelty of marriage ; wears off ambition reasserts itself as the prinie factor in her schame of , existence, and husband and horns suffer as a consequence. .Now, as a lover, no man resents a woman's ambition j indeed, he will promise that his , shall be the strong arm to aid her weak woman's powers to ascend the hill to fame,, but once marriage fetters have forgei the flints of their lives' for aifc ; time, v the wife seldom, if ever, finds in her husband the helpmate of promise. |He maysnot altogether compel her to abandon her cherished dreams straight away, but by his coldness and indiiSence: he will endeavour to starve he* ambition slowly but surelyto death. ,fn many instances jealousy is responsible for this attitude of the ./ husband "to wards—hi'a 1 wife's plans.

'for, a* r|ilei"tUe ambitious woman . man exactly the antithesis \" •oi keraejf,and so, having no exalted \\ '({reams |of ; his oftnto convert into \ he fails to understaiid hers, JI aWd. decid!dd!y. pbjeotsj ,ta' m 'sbeing r a more (important person* .thaaV' ~ himself in world. ; 1 these jcirctfmstahces' the, Wife' .'7; is naturally miserable, a^Jj&Lft-i' ■i',L very! outset of her wedded life she is face to face with two cross-roads of choice. Take one, and she must ? |gh| |ief road to *©very step she wins, farther dmjto* r fSrther; : fs6m *thjß>* v man" 'wh^;-v;-> ft trdr| should be ' \ e protecting arm "to snield^her ; weal of wbeAFSfeß'only alternative is $m giv® up--*h»r./'eheoßhed dreams, plan®, down to the commonplaces of domesticity, * wifehood. ' .„

hard, but the choice must bs made, "tot ho 'MI f measurea : will "meet• the** s ~ *of the case. Given she e'&cisjto ftUmb upward, ftojl \onward Js hers indeed. For all the old ideals , u o£ love are reft, all the plans Jot .the,, " k ,new„J.i,fe made nnder the influence of courtship's glamour abandoned, and . small wonder that, despite success in her life work, the girl grows a hard and unfeeling woman, for all the better, higher instincts of her woman* hood are stunted by the failure of '.,._' her marriage. She may rush hither and thither, she may present a smiling faoe to the inquisitorial' eyes of the world, but the iron has gone deep . > into her soul, marring it beyond the ' ' power of human healing, j ■• , { On the other hand, if she give' up her ambition, the chances are that aha will grow—equally - hard. -Eat that ambition, if it be worthy the name of ambition at all, iff part of herself, and, its '■ severance/from j ai'if || ■ man-■ does" j»t£ :x^i^J.^^^^^.^j^ g M j cause his ,-wjtfe.,aaay' storm, he/concludes/.she 4f ji ti|e ■ ineyitablej.;: ; . M himself that he has • ambitious nonsense f 6f ; <jsie dhio, brilliant girl has bedomtf yjjjH M careless, soured woman, and | Ms is by the possession of such a|wi£« I