Domestic Life.

Alexandra Herald and Central Otago Gazette, Issue 374, 9 July 1903, Page 7

Domestic Life.

DO GTRLS EXPECT TOO MUCH P HH THINk the average girl expects |m too much from a lover, and the sooner girl's get the knowledge into their heads that lovers ought to be well' treated the better. '. ; A. girl is certainly justified in demanding respect from a lover, but she must also respect him- , She expects j him always to be on his best behaviour in her company; bo must she be in his;-but alas 1 too many giris demand a graat deal from lovers, but" 1 give practically nothing in* return. ; The Ibvers muse be .very peri feet, but as fbr themselves—why, they arejjjrls ;' they are privileged} they right to do as „they think fit... JL girl really cannot get on with a young fellow under these ciroumstances; it should be a case of give and take; they ought to meet each other half-way. A girl cannot be dignified and disdainful, and expect humility; if she is disdainful, the young man has a right to be disdainful too. j

If girls "would only pause, to consider the 'matter they would see very, plainly that lovers deserve good treatment, and; that women ought to be .gentle and tender, rather than -domineering. ■ A girl, as a rule, thinks nothing of keeping a lover Raiting, for half an hour at the appointed meeting place, and if he'utters a word of reproach, how offended 1 she is 1 What right has he to challenge her conduct? The idea i Let a youth keep a girl waiting, however, and there is a vast difference,,- r „How., dare . he keep,her hanging about in the street?—and so on. . jThis is, |of course, very un-. .reasonable, yet it is quite common; but, the girt has not the slightest show of right on her side, , Girls must not think they are' privileged—they are not; and when there are ho many surplus women about, the marvel to me is that young men are willing to stand the treatment accorded to them by some .girls. ~ j -•*>'■'' ■ - ':■■•■ -■■•

1 There, are girls of > who have the notion that men should > < f. take any kind of treatment frbiii : ' them, and- neyer"' utter a ' Word of * 7"' reproach ; they j consider themselves the; Weaker sex, so men. should ;b© /• '! j ready to stand any, amount of, say ~' ■ „ . abuse, if the girls think fit to giyeit. ~. Butwhy ? Are hot women very prone,;-., , in ; these,days, to ranking themselves as equal ? They fore they should put themselves on i'«i* an equality with man in all things, and-do as they would he done by. Many* a* girl, again, has the idea* that the man ehe goes about with should feel highly honoured,, but ' -, again, why? W there is any honour^ ;;l * B . going about;,'.' it! is- the, girt whb gesS; it, for in selecting, her. the man pays the highest possible compliment. % ,-;- **«-, - Girls ought really to treat.loyerSf *.•%&s in a- sensible manner} the day>is <T over when they| may depend on their - sex for pardoning any shortcomings. ■ • A man nowadays expects to find common sense in a woman, the bid notion of the,'clinging ivy' business is exploded. Women are not dolls s , now, so let them behave accordingly , -and give to, lovers as good as they get. If a girl keeps a lover waiting, «« - let her apologise, just as she would < expect him to do for hor. *_*.'■ *" a Courting nowadays is a business matter, more or less ; the old custom of 'worshipping the ground 1 on which the fair one treads is out,of ,date, except, of course, when. the ; girl, is _ an heires holding landed property j , j, then, doubtless,; it still holds g00d.,,. , ; .y ~-» .All this does not mean' that men f*») should treat girls in anything approaching an off-hand 'style j* far--*i; ; from it; but it is high ; time that ■ m more ? common sense,, entered into courting than at present prevails. ?' 'There are no angels about in these ; days, and few men fancy there are 5; they w©H know thvt.the girls they t cxmrt are merely humun beings, and , ~ , have all the flaws and failings,!cbm- ; „ ~ mon to humanity* As a, ,-, < -girls ought not to expect to* be wor-a ;i"i shipped and adored. -• >-' <"- The girls who' expect,'an dreoeive* «* « this latter kind of treatment''fftrar; ; '■ loyersj generally find that tilings are "a trifle changed after marriage; 'front, ''" :/ holding posts, oe^ y^i^i 3 ""~ that their husbands look upon them as very ordinary mortals, and, .natuf- : .-;;-> a11y,., this 'cart - I amount of trouble* bwhioh (Certainl* ln& \ could have been avoided if thq girls, " ■- as sweethearts, had only expected, r&i< and-' -exacted, Sensible a treatment, $i '■ > Girls should always u <», IJdiite 4o lovefs, and of) loily superiosity,,.A. -»««, If^linjL.of/equality should prevail,} ( but if any question of superiority did ' v ladies,! I fear, would have, , to make way. I i--