UNFORTUNATE MARRIAGES.

Ashburton Guardian, Volume V, Issue 1614, 20 July 1887, Page 3

UNFORTUNATE MARRIAGES.

- It is a curious fact that while a man who has made an unfortunate marriage i» generally totally silent on the subject, women, if they utter no open outcry, often secretly complain, and those most who have the least to complain of. For such there need not be felt the slightest pity, If their life Is destroyed, they destroyed it themselves ; not merely by the first foolish step — which many take, for the average of marriages. are not ideal, bnt reßalt only m & convenient mutual toleration— bat beoause they will not make the best of things, will not take m the vital tinth that happiness — or per* haps I should say bltai-dueas— OHitists not m obtaining what we crave for, but m turning. (o noble ases that whioh we have. Many a wife goes About making a 'poor month,' about mere trifles. Her hueband had not given her the position she expected ; he likes the town and she the country, or vice versa ; he has a good heart but a bad temper $ his relatives are unpleasant, or he takes a dislike, just or unjust to hers ; all these minor miseries silly «omen dwell npon Instead of accepting. them, like the husband, 'for better for worse/ and striving by all unconceivable means, by patience, by selfdenial, by oourage when necessary, and by silent endurance always, to ohange worse into bettor. Thlß oan be dene, And often is done. If we, who have lived long enough to look on life with larger eyes than the young, are often saddened to see how many of the most passionate love marriages melt away into the middle ago of misery, wo have seen others which, beginning m error, And possessing all the elements of future wretchedness, have yet by wise conduot— generally on the wife's side— ended m something not fur short of happiness,— 4< Contemporary Bevlew."